BDSM Slave project

Lynn (a BDSM slave) came in today asking for something a bit more unique. She was impressed by the 10g horizontal hood I had done on her last year and wanted to get something a bit more interesting for her master.

She mentioned to me that she wanted to get her outer labia pierced so I suggested two 10g curved titanium barbells with 7/32″ slave ring bead ends. We could then attach four CBR’s to it while it healed. Then she could either weight them or remove them and slide a 1&1/4″ curved barbell through both forming the beginning of a chastity. If she then felt the healing process went well and the jewelry felt good when healed we could continue the project downward forming a complete chastity. She agreed and was so happy with the result when I’d finished she jumped up and gave me a big hug! I had also allowed her master to watch the procedure which I rarely do but I was glad I did.

He complimented me the entire time and was surprisingly nice to Lynn.

Lots of love,

- Lane

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Shannon Larratt is the founder of BME (1994) and its former editor and publisher. After a four year hiatus between 2008 and 2012, Shannon is back adding his commentary to ModBlog. It should be noted that any comments in these entries are the opinion of Shannon Larratt and may or may not be shared by BMEzine.com LLC or the other staff or members of BME. Entry text Copyright © Shannon Larratt. Reproduced under license by BMEzine.com LLC. Pictures may be copyright to their respective owners. You can also find Shannon at Zentastic or on Facebook.

31 thoughts on “BDSM Slave project

  1. Coming from someone who knows very little about BDSM, and is therefore going mostly on stereotypes (for want of a better word), I would assume it’s because the “master” is usually controlling and tortuous, and the “slave” is way submissive. So maybe people expect these roles to go outside “the bedroom” as well.

    But, like I said. I don’t really know what I’m talking about.

  2. of course there are, its a way of life, however their outside relationship need not equate to their inside one.

    that is a wicked awesome piercing too :)

  3. Pirate:

    I’m sure some people *do* want their steady power exchanges to be that way, and, well: bless. But in my own experience and from what I’ve observed being friends with many people who have or are interested in this style of relationship, relationships don’t survive unless there’s something more than *just* strong roles.

    This may not be true of everybody, and I may just know particularly gentle Masters… but I really can’t imagine even *wanting* to own someone I didn’t feel warmly toward. I can’t even picture in my head that a slave of mine would do something as intense as this project and I’d not be friendly, loving, invested, proud…

    so it just struck me as odd. But, well: different folks lead different lives, really.

  4. Regardless though, this entry makes both of them sound like big sweeties. Which makes me happy.

  5. Melsgam: Yes, there are some who do 24/7 dominance/submission, but from what I’ve seen, they tend to keep it fairly subtle in public unless they’re around like-minded people.

    Masters that I’ve spoken with (including my own) generally treasure their submissives and would never intentionally harm them. Like TrinityVA said, why shouldn’t Lynn’s Master be nice to her? You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Being degraded and humiliated (outside of previously negotiated limits) isn’t BDSM, it’s abuse. BDSM should be done because both partners enjoy it, not because one partner wants to harm the other.
    Just to give you some perspective, my boyfriend is dominant. I’m submissive. Outside of the bedroom, we’re equal partners. In the bedroom, however, it gets rather kinky. ^_^

  6. “You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.”

    Exactly, Nika. The one time I tried to date someone who wanted a harsh dominant it really didn’t work. That’s just not me.

    Not that I don’t wish him the best with someone who better suits him, but… there’s a difference between enjoying being play-mean in scenes and acting that way all the time. The latter is something I really can’t do. I can be dominant all the time, in the sense that it’s part of my personality and I’m me. But to always act like I act for fun… nah, doesn’t work for me.

  7. Not appealing to me. But I guess some people will find this very cool. I’m not sure about the whole master-slave thing…

    Is there ANY post at all that doesn’t include Lane Jennsen being mentioned? It’s beginnen to look like Shannon’s only a puppet on a string… I’m sure he isn’t, but I think it looks like it.

    I AM happy about all the updates of modblog, so no complaints really… I was getting really sick of Tetris…Paw.

  8. What an articulate and enlightening discussion! Modblog definitely attracts quality readers.
    Sexy piercing too.

  9. I hope I don’t sound like a jerk but what if people like me who don’t yet have a “BME Extreme” account and want one can’t sign up for it because the BME’s eCommerce stuff is offline and has been for some time?

  10. TrinityVA – (Re: post #1) I read it as just commenting that this was done in a standard professional context rather than a scene extended into Lane’s studio.

    dhtseany – You can’t unfortunately… I’ve been told that the issues causing that problem may be resolved this week so hopefully you won’t have to wait much longer at all.

  11. They look really good, very straight and very even. The HCH doesn’t look too happy though.

  12. In my experience, when people in a full-time master/slave relationship come into a piercing studio, the master tends to be…well…very “masterish”. They want to be in control of as many aspects of the process as possible…very often to the extent that the slave has been instructed not to speak. I have seen more than a few slaves rebuked for attempting to answer a question that I asked them directly. That sort of behavior can come across as “not nice”, so perhaps that’s the sort of behavior Lane was expecting, not unreasonably, to experience.

    As a piercer, it can be difficult to operate comfortably in these circumstances as I (and most other responsible piercers) want to ensure I’m doing work on someone who wants to be pierced. I have no issue with the nature of a master/slave relationship, but if it seems as though the person getting the piercing truly doesn’t want to be pierced, I have no problems refusing to do the work.

    My obligation is to the person I am piercing. I have no obligation to the master or the dynamic of their relationship.

  13. Amorphous: I can see where you’re coming from. And I can definitely understand how you’d be uncomfortable, especially if the slave had been told not to speak. The piercing was probably discussed ahead of time, but you have no way of knowing that. If I were in that situation, I’d be uncomfortable too.
    And yes, lifestyle dominants can come across as “not nice” much of the time. They might be cuddly teddy bears in private, but harsher in public. Or they might be harsh all the time. It’s all in a person’s nature, I suppose.

  14. The nice part was in this situation they both asked questions and discussed the issues together. I have had situation where the slave was told what to do and I have had to refuse the piercing because I felt they had no choice in what was going to be done to their bodies. That’s why this master’s kindness surprised me. I believe they were more into the fun of role playing than being hard core BDSM participants.

  15. #20: Nika there is ways of finding out if it was discussed prior and the overall situation.

    In terms of the Master/Sub relationship a proper Master should be willing to give the “master” controls over to you, the piercer, especially when you’re in a piercing studio environment…As the piercing studio is NOT their domain, or something they can control. There is shop protocols and policies that prohibit the master being in control of the situation.

    It’s definitely hard though cuz some master’s are VERY dominant, to the point of shutting themselves off from “reality”…To each their own, but luckily any dom/sub I’ve had has been more then respectful of my protocols and policies.

  16. “They want to be in control of as many aspects of the process as possible…very often to the extent that the slave has been instructed not to speak. I have seen more than a few slaves rebuked for attempting to answer a question that I asked them directly.”

    Okay, that makes sense. There are some people with protocols about when slaves can speak, yes. That always struck me as silly, personally, but to each his own. Though it does seem unwise in a body mod situation to me as well. My personal feeling would be that if someone has those protocols, s/he should answer for the slave if s/he knows the answer, and if s/he can’t, the slave should answer. I don’t think there’s any reason for rebukes in that situation. But that’s me and my opinion.

  17. Lane: thanks for clearing that up. And yeah, that kind of thing does happen. And that’s a shame in my opinion. My opinion is that even people who want very deep control should be having fun.

  18. #21 what you are describing is a healthy BDSM relationship. As a lifestyle Domina and having owned live in slaves. I can say that this is how it should be. A Dominant is respectful and cares deeply for the ones who are collared by them.

    It is a very meanigful relationship and the saftey mentally and physically of the sumbissive or slave is very much key to the happiness of their owner. There are so many examples of abuse in supposed BDSM relationships that it is sickenenning.

    It is clear that Lynn wanted to have these piercing and was rapt at the idea of the chastity her Master would be able to use with her from your work. It is very nice to see people in such an example of a BDSM lifestyle. I think if you ask them you will see it is not just fun and roleplay for them. It is simply that they are very happy and do not see the need to express extreme and humiliating behaviour inorder to fufill both the needs of the Dominant and the submissive.

  19. And if it’s not clear, I totally understand and agree with a piercer refusing to pierce in those situations. If I acted that way about someone who belonged to me, I’d *hope* you’d kick me out.

  20. Yeah I agree with that Trinity the piercer is a professional and is not part of the BDSM relationship between any couple or an abusive none BDSM relationship. It is their right to refuse service at anytiem if they feel it in the clients best interest.

  21. #22: Warren, I agree completely that the piercer should be the one in control of the situation in the studio. Any other way is stupid and potentially dangerous.

    Thanks to Lane for clearing that up. I agree with what Trinity and QUEEN have said in response, so to add my two cents here would be redundant.

  22. As I can’t say anything that hasn’t already been said (and far more eloquently than I could say it), I’d just like to say that I really love the piercing; it looks beautiful.

  23. Let me just add, as a lifestyle master, that Being Large And In Charge All The Time is a lot of work – and generally the sign of insecurity on the part of the Owner.

    As for the piercing – it’s gorgeous and as an artist, I’d have to say “It’s done.” That is a perfectly augmented pussy, and if a chastity is wanted, it would be child’s play to design a locking shield that fits it.

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