It’s Story Time!

Every once in a while I find it nice to sit back and let someone else do the work for me.  If you’re a new reader of ModBlog, you may not know that in addition to all the photo galleries BMEzine.com offers, there is also an entire section dedicated to the stories told by members of the community.  With over 50,000 stories published you can read about pretty much every single topic related to modifications, all of them created by readers like you.  We’re always looking for more stories to publish, so if you have one you’d like to share, please do.

For today’s story we have BMEzine.com member Ohmymaddies sharing her journey in getting her first microdermals.

Just click the button to read her story.

My Lovely Little Hip Microdermals – Ohmymaddies

The first time I had seen hip piercings was when I was 13. Needless to say, I immediately fell in love with the piercing, but had strict parents, so even asking for them was completely out of the question. So I settled on admiring them, and after about a year, I stopped thinking about them for the most part.

However, five years later, my little obsession had resurfaced. By the time I was 17, I’d had my bellybutton pierced and my lobes stretched to 1/2”, and at 18, I’d found myself dying for another piercing. My boyfriend, who surprisingly liked my bellybutton, and, even more surprisingly, LOVED my lobes, hated piercings and tattoos, and any piercings I’d wanted, including my septum, which I could hide easily, he found disgusting. After shooting down any and every piercing under the sun, I found myself quite annoyed with him, and itching even more for another beautiful piercing. It was then that hip piercings had floated back into my thoughts, and I knew that I had to get them. They were beautiful and perfect for my body shape, and I was almost certain that my boyfriend would like these, even if it took some convincing.

Before I even brought the piercing up to him, though, I ran into some problems with the piercing. At my age, I was entirely too smart to get a surface piercing that would almost surely reject, especially in such a high impact area as my hips. After some thought, I’d come up with the possibility of microdermals, but almost immediately ruled them out, because they were semi-permanent, and I wasn’t completely convinced that that was a great idea. Over the next week, though, the thought of microdermals kept popping up, and as unsure as I was of them the previous week, they seemed like a very plausible solution to the surface bars.

The day I absolutely decided on them, my boyfriend picked me up and when we got to his house, I immediately began babbling about them, and wouldn’t shut up. He saw pictures of them and was immediately opposed to them, but for the next few days, I wouldn’t shut up about them. He, however, wouldn’t budge his opinion on them, and I let up on getting them for a while.

About a month later, I brought it up again, and to my surprise, he seemed a bit more receptive to them. He’d decided that they’d actually be “sexy” on me, and he’d even gone so far as to research the procedure of the piercing, look into the jewelry they’d use for it, and watch videos of actual piercings. We’d decided that we’d go to get the piercings two days after my graduation party.

The days quickly passed, and I found myself in his car, on the way to the piercing parlor much sooner than I’d expected. I was completely nervous about the procedure, and my hand was shaking a little bit as I filled out the forms for the piercing. The wait for the piercer seemed like forever, and when it was time to go back for the piercing, my legs felt like jell-o. The piercer had asked if I’d wanted one side done, or if I wanted both sides done, and I’d opted for one side- my right. She’d marked the spot where the microdermal would sit, and had me sit down. Once in the chair, I relaxed completely. I closed my eyes as she unpackaged the punch and jewelry and cleaned the spot on my hip. I turned my head in the opposite direction, keeping my eyes closed out of fear for the big pinch. The piercer began massaging and pinching my skin in the area, which was the most painful part of the entire procedure, in all honesty, and it wasn’t even entirely painful. After 10 or 15 seconds of pinching, she held the skin and picked up the punch. She pushed the punch into my skin and moved it around a bit, but I hardly even felt that, other than a sharp sort of pressure. The next thing I know, she’d pushed in the jewelry, which I knew was in from the popping sound it had made, and she was wiping the blood off from around the new piercing. I stood up, feeling amazing, and looked at it in the mirror. It was perfect. After hearing the aftercare and receiving H2Ocean, I was on my way home.

The piercing bled for two and a half days, but was fine after. If I had put pressure on it, it was a little sore, and there was bruising around the piercing for about a week (from the massaging and pinching), but I had absolutely no problems with it. I went a week later to get the other side done, and now both are healing quite smoothly. As long as I wear low cut jeans, they never get caught on anything. These are by far my favorite piercing. I love them, my boyfriend loves them, and even my parents love them. I don’t think I could have picked a better piercing.

12 thoughts on “It’s Story Time!

  1. Nice story. Unfortunately the fact that she had to ask permission from her boyfriend disgusted me. It seemed as if her partner’s approval/disapproval of body modification was a bigger focus in the story than her actual piercing.

  2. Well at least her boyfriend finally approved so she could do as she pleased with her own body. PHEW

  3. If my partner told me I couldn’t do something to my own body… we would have issues. It kind of icks me out that anyone should have to get a partners permission for a piercing. I would definitely talk to my partner about it before hand, but the decision is, and will always be, mine.

  4. Reminds me that my boyfriend is mad that I’m getting my septum pierced. Unlike this girl, I told him it’s my body and he can piss off. I’m glad she was granted permission to get the mod she wanted, though.

  5. I agree with everyone here. It’s her body; and asking permission after 18 is ridiculous. Your body = your decision. End of story.

  6. Seriously, couldn’t you spotlight a story that was more about the piercing experience and less about having to beg boyfriends for permission to do something agentive with their own body?

  7. I agree that it is not good that her boyfriend had to approve. I can understand though that body mods do bring joy to people. It was her choice regardless of what he said or thought. Some people need to see the benefits of body mods to the person getting them. Body modification and certain scenarios people see as bad just by automatically judging. This was a good story though glad she got them for herself.

  8. Wtf? you shouldn’t give a shit about what your boyfriend says or thinks about piercings and what you want to do with your body – if you wanted piercings go get them! you did not need ‘permission’ from your boyfriend.. he does not own your body.

    Oh and it only matters if YOU love them, not your boyfriend or your parents. just you, what matters is you, it’s you who want them and it’s not about what others want [or don't want]
    It’s your own damn body, your decision. (agreed with the other comments)

  9. As as person who empathizes with having an anti-piercing boyfriend, I don’t think she was “begging” permission from her boyfriend but rather was considering his feelings. Yes, it is her body (she has already provened this by stretching her lobes and getting both her navel and septum pierced) but since he most likely likes her body and ABHORS piercings, it might be inconsiderate of her to ruin that for him. What if you hated smoking but your partner did it anyways (for the sake of equality, he/she said they’d never smoke around you)? It’s their body, their health; why should they heed to your protests?

    Point being, she doesn’t HAVE to consult her boyfriend first but she opts to because she cares for him, and that’s HER decision.

  10. Misread something, apologies. She didn’t get her septum pierced, but that doesn’t detract any less from my statement.

  11. I agree with Cameron. In an ideal world, we’d be able to do whatever we want to our bodies and it would have no consequences. But we do not live in an ideal world, and when you are in a relationship with someone who has different views than you, you must decide which is more important – your opinion, or the relationship – and you must make choices and compromise accordingly. My boyfriend hates piercings, too. It doesn’t stop me from stretching my ears and getting piercings, but I like to consult him beforehand, just because I want to know what he thinks. In turn, he is courteous to me – he isn’t thrilled by my stretched ears, but he encourages me to wear whatever jewelry I like in them, because the more jewelry he sees, the more likely he is to find something he likes. I have a very modest collection, but he already likes a few pieces in it.

    This post is a good example of the types of interactions that go on when a modified person and an unmodified person are in a close relationship of any kind. Some of you are horrified because it sounds like she’s asking his permission. But what I see is that she is asking his opinion, and then deciding that the relationship is more important to her. (Before he changes his mind, anyway.)

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