Hello, for over a year now, pretty much every single day I've been going online, and looking through BME. It's one of my favorite things to do. I don't know where I would be right now if I hadn't found BME. The day that I turn 18 I'm hoping to get the Calm Logo tattooed somewhere on my body, to show my thanks, I haven't quite figured out where though yet, but I've still got 3 years. I'm also planning on getting a couple other Logos tattooed too. But that's not what this is about.
At A Glance Author Nick Contact [email protected] When N/A I'm 15 years old, a freshman in high school, and I have stretched lobes. Having my lobes pierced and stretched has helped me in so many ways; I wouldn't know where to start. I don't know exactly when I'll stop stretching them but hopefully not any time soon. My goal is to be the proud owner of 5/8-inch lobes. Right now I'm at a 00 gauge and a 4 gauge so I haven't got much farther to go, but who knows, I might not even stop there. I love the look of stretched lobes.
Almost everyday I get asked the questions, "Why do you do that?" and I tell them I like how it looks, I get asked "Doesn't that hurt?" and I tell them nope, "Will those ever close up?" I hope not, that usually shuts them up quick and they get shocked that I actually like my ears. And they just look at me like I'm crazy. Only 3 people in my entire family support my decision to be modified, my aunt and my cousin, both on my mom's side, and my grandma, on my dad's side. I'll go on BME and read some of the experiences and people say things like, I don't want my family finding out, and I did it myself because my parents said no, and I remember when I was like that and now as I think about it I wonder why parents can't just accept their kids as they are, and support them. My parents still wont let me get the piercings I want, and I want to wait till I'm 18 to get my tattoos and my septum punched, but I want my tongue and labret pierced and stretched now, I've already given tho se piercings so much more thought, I'm ready now, and my parents wont allow it.
I've been offered over $1,000 total from a lot of my family if I would never get any more piercings, and if I would take out the piercings that I do have. I would pay over $1,000 just to keep my piercings if I had to. Almost nobody understands why this means so much to me or how little pieces of jewelry could mean so much to me; I've given up trying to explain.
When I first asked my mom if I could get my tongue pierced, she said no, I asked her why not, and she said that it just wasn't normal. Well a lot of the people I hang out with have piercings, and dress how I do, so wouldn't having my tongue pierced be considered normal for who I hang out with. She said she didn't care; I wasn't getting it pierced so to quit asking.
The next day I asked her again if I could get my tongue pierced, she said no again, so I asked her if she loved me, she said she did, and I told her to define love, and in her definition she said "..to do anything to make that person happy.." Shouldn't she let me get my tongue pierced then, it would be the thing to make me REALLY happy and feel more complete. We came to an agreement that if I did better in school then I could get it done, then we would both be happy, I have an appointment in about 2 weeks, and I can't wait.
But I know that it isn't something that my mom truly wants me to have; she just wants me to quit bugging her and to make me happy. But piercings just aren't her favorite thing. I know that she's not going to like it once I get my tongue stretched to around 0 gauge, she probably wont notice that I'm stretching it for a while, and I hope she doesn't find out because it would make her happier if she didn't know about it. And I know that the rest of my family except those 3 people aren't going to like that my tongue is pierced period. But it's my decision right?
I would give anything for my family to accept me as who I am, and not always try to change me, a couple of my family members don't even talk to me at reunions and birthday parties and all those get-togethers, it really bugs me. They wont even say hi, unless I say hi to them first and then they just try to get out of talking to me. It's like every one is prejudice against me. My dad told me that my lobes would never close up completely when I take out the jewelry; I said when I take them out? I'm not going to take them out, I hope they never close up, and he just looked at me like he was in shock, I know my parents love me a lot and they'd do anything for me, but I guess body modifications just aren't on the list, but I think now my mom and dad are starting to accept that this is how I am, it's just every body else that doesn't get it.
I dunno, maybe someday I'll be able to BeME, and be accepted