It’s story time!

A lot of the posts on ModBlog feature images submitted to BMEzine by people from all over the world.  In addition to the image galleries, BME also has an entire section dedicated to the stories that our members share with everyone.

The following story was submitted by someone named Steph to the piercing section.

I will start off by saying before I got my triangle I did a lot of research. I read nearly every single experience on BME over a number of weeks, called up different studios to ask questions and joined various websites to get the opinions and experiences of professional piercers, as well as those few who already had a triangle piercing. It certainly is not that easy to find information (from my experience) and you really do have to dig for it. But once you know your stuff, you’ll feel much more comfortable about going to get the piercing.

Before I set my heart on getting it done I knew it would only be possible if my anatomy was suited to the piercing. I did a lot of poking around in the mirror to check if I had hood space just underneath my clitoris. Even though I felt I did, I knew the majority of women did not so I decided to email a piercer who does free consultations and is experienced in doing triangles, Elayne Angel. I sent her a couple of pictures and she said she thought I was suited to it. This is worth doing.

After a few days I had finally plucked up the courage to actually visit a studio. My research (particularly messaging people with triangles) had led me to Kalima Emporium. I had already spoken to four women who had their triangle pierced by Quentin at Kalima. All of them praised him and the welcoming atmosphere of the studio, it was also a nice little addition that Quentin is one of the most experienced body modification artists in the UK! To get there I had to travel from London, it felt like forever to get to the studio in Worthing. It is also right near the beach so before I got pierced I just sat with my friend on the pebbles by the sea, which relaxed me quite a bit and I would recommend that if you are nervous and go to Kalima.

Upon entering the studio my friend and I were warmly welcomed by Quentin and the other piercer, John (and even the customers were friendly!) The place was elaborately decorated and very unique looking, unlike some white wall studios I am used to which make you feel as if you are visiting the dentist! I explained what I wanted done to Quentin and was taken into the piercing room to have my anatomy checked. I didn’t feel rushed or at all uncomfortable. I was told that whilst I had space under my clitoris, my outer labias might affect how deeply I could be pierced because they would rub on the jewelry. He said that it was certainly possible for me to have it done but I had to be aware that because of this the piercing could migrate itself slightly into a more comfortable position. Armed with this knowledge and everything else he had told me, I got dressed and went to sit outside for a bit whilst he dealt with two other clients that wanted a scaffold and microdermals. Quentin said that he wanted a lot of time to mark me up and explain things in more detail, as what I wanted done was going to be ”intense.” I was happy to wait if it meant I would receive care and patience – which I did.

Back into the room I went. I felt surprisingly relaxed even though this was going to be my first genital piercing (I’ve only just turned 18) and is generally considered the most painful female genital piercing (other than the clitoris.) Quentin compared it to the ampallang on males. There was soothing music playing in the background and I was told to concentrate on my breathing and relaxing my muscles. It is worth mentioning Quentin in general has a calming effect and takes a very personal, spiritual approach. I’d read that before more than once in my research and it is true. I was marked up and for both the anatomy check before and the piercing itself I did not even need to lay in the birthing position, apparently it isn’t necessary and I think that helps in making you feel a little less on show. All I had to do was lay down with my legs straight out flat, about a shoulder width apart, whilst I was marked up. Numbing was not used with my triangle because whilst being clamped I had to say if it feels like my nerve bundle is being clamped. I didn’t mind this – I didn’t want a pierced nerve bundle! Quentin talked me through everything, telling me the odd story about his modifications, putting me at ease. I was clamped up (with septum clamps, which create a straight tube for the needle to pass through, eliminating the dangers of the nerve bundle being pierced) and then pierced.

Yes, it did hurt. It was INTENSE. But only for a couple of seconds. However, the next part was more painful. I was told after I was pierced with a needle exactly the same size as the jewelry (14g) to prevent unnecessary bleeding. This meant for the jewelry insertion the circular barbell had to be wiggled through with more pressure. I’m usually good with pain but with this I really scrunched my face up in agony. Although, this subsided once it was done and I spun around to admire my new piercing in the mirror – I fell in love instantly! The whole process must have taken about half an hour or more, certainly no pressure or rushing to get the next customer in. I was really relaxed throughout, apparently I was the most calm client he’s had so far for a triangle! Proud

Walking back to the train station was easy enough but I made the effort to walk slowly. It is now day two and I have had minor bleeding on and off, with little soreness. I’m still taking anti inflammatory tablets (not that I feel I am even swollen) as well as doing sea salt soaks in the bath twice a day. It was worth the travel, especially if you are in England and reading this because you want a triangle. It seems there are few piercers who can perform it properly whilst putting you so at ease.

I have had such a positive experience and I really do owe it ultimately to Kalima. Like someone said to me, the studio is a little ”hidden gem.” I felt considered as an individual, not just another piece of flesh to pierce. I couldn’t fault any part of my experience and will certainly be going back there for other heavier mods in the future.


So, do you have a story to share with the world about your modifications?  Head on over to your account page and let us know something about one (or more) of your experiences.

4 thoughts on “It’s story time!

  1. nice idea but could you tell us who’s going to review and accept/ deny these stories? The review system hasn’t been working for a few months now and the ‘soon, really soon’ song of making it work sounds very old to me by now!

    And if share my story with BME (as I used to do), can you guarantee that you won’t lose my stories and archive them properly? Turns out, when I really needed my own scarification story to see how the things went the first time around, the story isn’t a part of BME archive anymore.

    so disappointed I am? yes. A little bitter about how things have been turning on? kind of. Distrustful? You bet.

  2. Glad to see the experience story section of BME is getting some well-deserved attention!
    It was the stories that brought me to the site in the first place, and I would not be where I am today if not for those and the people choosing them to share their stories with the world via submitting them to BME.
    BUT I have to say that Ania above is right with what she says. There’s lots of issues with them ever since the migration to the current platform many moons ago (which left the story I have submitted here lacking all its formatting, embedded pictures and additonal information, for example) that haven’t been corrected in all those months and there’s no visible progress on things improving at all despite repeated promises to the contrary.
    In short – the experience section of BME is in dire need of some attention which hopefully will be lavished on it now that it’s in some degree of a public spotlight. Please fix the errors from the migration, bring the review system back on and give us all the improvements that were promised as part of the current platform!

  3. Thanks for submitting my experience, I am really chuffed.
    I would agree that some tweaks could be made to the submission system. Overall, I hope my write up proves useful to someone.

  4. is anyone else bothered that the new site blocks genital piercing experiences to those with free membership? cause i am and have been mad about it. stories ought to be available to anyone who needs the information regardless of whether they have paid a membership fee or contributed to bme personally.

    so, thank you for posting such a nice triangle story, because i’ve been meaning to read some of those — if i could.

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