86 thoughts on “This is not self-deprecation, but it is NSFW!”

  4. omg i read the blog since Tom mentioned it.

    i can’t stop laughing. the blog reads like it was written by Golum from Lord of the Rings, only Golum is a now some gimp bitch sex slave. too fucking funny. i realize its probably very serious and that just makes it more funny to me.

    i love the fucked up people. gimmie more

  6. I disagree with bradly and Warborn completely; this is a fantastic tattoo, and the owner probably got it because there was deep meaning behind it. There’s no reason to flame it.

    The script is wonderfully done, I commend the artist!

  9. yeah the deep meaning behind it is that she has no self respect and drinks piss. i have to 110% agree with bradly. i couldnt have put it better myself.

  10. people who can’t find happiness in self-respect and putting a value to them selfs make me sad.

  11. Not a fan, don’t care for the tattoo, and somebody needs to learn how to shave.
    That’s just personal though – I’ve never liked vulgar tattoos involving the word “cunt”.

  12. wow just wow, reading her blog is like driving past a horrible car accident, it just can’t look away lol.

  14. Wow,

    That blog was super intense. A warning would have been nice.

    I feel like the majority of people are totally not into that kind of thing, or even reading about it.

  18. can someone tell me the name of the blog in question everyone is discussing?

    i would like to read it but i am confused as to how to get there.

  19. What’s the link to her blog and why are blog links being censored? Was it offensive or something?

  20. seriously modblog, wtf??
    this is censored but the dick a couple entries down isn’t???

  22. WAY TO GO KIVA!
    Your Master must be very proud.

    some of these comments are pretty obnoxious, but after looking at thier MySpace & such i just laugh and laugh at them. human beings are so fucking stupid.
    us freaks gotta stand together or we’ll all be destroyed.

  28. Maybe, since she claims the tattoo is not self-deprecation, she got the tattoo because, literally speaking, her “cunt” IS “worthless,” as in maybe she had some kind of uterine/ovarine cancer or other such disease that has effected her fertility or sex drive? come on people, think about WHY the non-self-deprecation claim was made, other than flaming the tattoo for reasons that have already been discredited.

  29. Melanie – That’s what I first thought when I saw the photos! I didn’t censor the link but after re-reading her blog I thought she might not appreciate it being posted here so I removed it.

  30. Despite your response Melanie, I still cannot see any sort of justification in the choice she made.
    Even if someone were to have uterine or ovarian cancer I really cannot grasp why someone would take their success story and turn it into something so negative. The word ‘cunt’ has never had positive connotations. It’s just another person starving for attention through shock factor. It’s distasteful and repugnant.

  31. peteD3-

    Lack of favor does not denote a lack of loyalty. We can all “stand together” without falsifying our personal opinions, vaginal tattoos aside.

  33. Look at the bright side – the tattoo appears to be in an area which would be covered by hair if/when she decides to stop shaving. I didn’t get to see the blog (link was gone by the time I saw this post) so I don’t know what the ‘back story’ is, i.e. is she in a relationship etc. If she’s not, though, I can’t help but wonder what future lovers would think of this? And I’ll echo what some of the others here have said, I’m not a huge fan of the word ‘cunt’ either. I curse like a sailor at times, and I RARELY use that word. She may not think it’s self deprecating – but honestly, that word is vulgar and insulting to women in general. (let the flames begin, and I probably won’t even see them…..)

    Whatever. It’s her ‘cash and prizes’, not mine, and she can do what she wants to with them.

  34. Im reading her blog now. Holy shit, that is some of the hottest fucking erotica ive had a chance to read.

    This girl is my hero. If only more were like her….

  37. I have a feeling a lot of people are going to be begging for that link…and I’m one of them! If someone’s got it I would really really like to see it. 🙂

  44. Jessica:
    The world “cunt” wasn’t always a dirty word. It was a neutral term for female genitalia. It wasn’t considered obscene until the 17th Century.

  46. b. – got a problem with fat chicks? WE SHALL SIT ON YOU!! (I say this as I am a plump girl)

    I’m not a big fan of the word “cunt” so it’s not a fav. But hey, everyone can tattoo themselves the way they want

  49. You guys are hypocrites. How many times have ignorant people ranted that you’re mutilating your bodies? How often have they said that your tattoos, your scars, your gauged piercing just prove that you have no respect for yourself or your bodies?
    How dare you sit at your keyboards and flame Kiva. How dare you say her actions, the behaviors SHE has chosen for herself because they make HER happy, are wrong? She isn’t asking you to do it too. Why can’t you respect her choices and happiness?

    You draw such arbitrary lines in your head. A guy cuts his cock into 4 pieces, that’s self-expression. A girl drinks piss, she’s clearly ill and hates herself.
    Just because you would never do it and find it repulsive doesn’t mean it can’t bring another person bliss.

    Get off your high horse and try and open your minds an inch. You don’t have to want to do it. You don’t have to think it’s hot. But you should respect HER right to. Say:
    “I don’t understand why anyone would want those things, but she does. She found what makes her happy and she pursues it regardless of what other people think. Good for her.”

  51. Whether or not you think it’s “distasteful” or the choice of words is inappropriate, it’s her body to tattoo as she sees fit.
    It’s not a morality choice and she’s not hurting anyone else with her decision to have that inked on. Judge elsewhere, starting at home.

    Cunt. All females have one. *shrug*

  54. By posting the photo but removing the blog link, we’re left with few options when it comes to considering this tattoo. Without any context, it’s difficult to see how this isn’t reflecting self-hatred and internalized misogyny.

  56. … For ModBloggers you lot sure are very close minded.

    I think once the razor burn clears up and the tattoo heals, she should be pleased with it.

  57. Long story short, its (and by its i mean hers, she only refers to herself as it) Master will not have traditional sex with it. Prefering to only engage in anal intercourse, or oral after it serves as his own personal urinal. Cuh-razy shit.

  58. B. You have some serious issues to deal with if you think being female makes you worthless. Women have done plenty to further our society and deserve just as much respect as men. And fat chicks need love too.

    As far as the tattoo, the blog ect… it is no one’s choice but her how to modify her body or live her life. People get their rocks off in all sorts of ways, and that tattoo si beautiful because it’s hers, and the art is well done.

  59. men > women.

    forever and always.

    but that’s okay that you’re in denial,
    females hate hearing the truth.

  60. Yeah I too would have liked to have a warning. I will never unread what I read this morning on my way to class.

    And b.:

    Ew. Go get a life.

  61. #30/jessica: Why is it distasteful and rupugnant? Why do you frown on that? Kiva got this tattoo for, obviously, a very personal reason. While you may not be able to grasp why someone would get such a tattoo, perhaps it isn’t your place to, nor is it anyone else’s. “Cunt” is just a word, just like “fuck” or “twat” or “daisies.”

    I am very surprised and saddened by some of the ignorant comments here.

  63. I really don’t understand what all these people posting negative comments are doing on BME. As many others here no doubt, I first came to this site years ago, as a pierced and tattoed teenager, who felt wrongly judged by the people around me because of my appearance. I am over with the self pity now that I am a grown woman, but I haven’t forgotten how good it felt coming across this site full of people who (seemingly at the time) where not here to judge me, accepted that there is a person full of potential behind the sleeves and the stretched septum. A lot of stories in BME have a recurring theme, that of parents not understanding or trying to communicate with their modified kids, or that of the world criticising modified people. And one would think coming to this site, that acceptance and tolerance are highly valued. Well apparently they are only if the modified community finds your mods tasteful or if they are not offended by the wording on your tats. Pretty much like how your parents were free-thinking accepting people in their opinion, so long as you didn’t wear a mini skirt or get your belly-button pierced, because (in their opinion) it just wasn’t tasteful and showed lack of self-respect.

    Sorry for the rant guys. It just makes me feel that something is wrong with the world when people get judged for their tattooes on BME of all places…

    peace, a.

  65. Damn… I want the blog link too now. I really want to know the meaning behind the tattoo.

  66. first off. stop with all the “omg you are judgmental” shit.

    making judgments is evolution. if you don’t think it is, come to New Orleans, and I’ll prove it.. you can NOT make judgments and end up stabbed, robed, or raped by the crackhead i saw coming from 2 blocks away.

    “It is not that the Kiva is a worthless cunt, but that the cunt between its legs is worthless to it. This is not self-deprecation!“ This statement is fucking stupid. Referring to yourself as “it?” Seems to me that she all ready thinks of herself as less than human.

    truthfully though. when i saw the picture of her and the tattoo i didn’t make any initial judgment. too little information and/or experience with such subject matter for my mind to do so, which is what judgments are based on, and they are autonomous and automatic, happening without my direction, or yours when you make them.

    after reading her blog i made my judgment. its mine, it serves its purpose and there is little reason for me to really share it here since it isn’t very nice. that being said, with so many other things in the world which are deserving of attention, i wont waste time feeling sorry for her or saddened by her situation, or should i be saying… i don’t feel sorry for it, or saddened by it’s situation, because it truly is a worthless cunt, not it, but it’s cunt.. it is it’s cunt that is worthless…. right?

    anyway. try looking on the bright side people. If you live in a world where piss is like champagne to you, isn’t that kinda like living in heaven? i mean, there is a ton of piss to be had in this world. i hope she gets her fill.

  69. Just to point out that “The Kiva’s” blog also contains fiction:

    “while there is some fiction, that fiction is still based on experience. it will not be specified if a story is true or fiction.”

    and so you can’t really say what is real or not. Anyway, I think that drinking piss and ass fucking is hella gross, but I also believe that an individual’s body is their property to do with as they please. I guess if it gets “it” off…If it promotes the freak agenda I’m for it.

    Did anyone else notice that “Kiva’s lord” commented “nice color scheme” on her blog? Seems like a nice guy….

  70. If you read the IAM terms of service, it says, “The management of this site is very pro-gay, pro-BDSM, pro-alternative politics, pro-civil liberties, etc., and the site’s policies are determined in part by these politics and philosophies.”

    That’s right, pro-BDSM – and that is exactly what kiva is involved in. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but we are all on a site that believes in acceptance of personal interests.

  72. I wonder if “B” says things like that to his mother, grandmothers, sisters, aunts, and girlfriend. Oh wait, scratch that last one.

  74. I find that tattoo to be funny, because it’s the truth. I highly doubt anyone values that vagina.

  75. Don’t be unkind. People may be into things we aren’t, or stuff we think is gross, but that doesn’t give you the right to belittle them. Have a bit of respect. This community used to be so tight-knit and accepting, what’s happened to it?

  77. Thanks everyone for finally posting the blog links – censorship really gets people nowhere.

    If she didn’t want her thoughts read, I doubt she’d get a domain name devoted to her thoughts, eh? lol…

  78. I definitely understand why Roo took down the link, but after reading some of the entries I actually feel like I have a much better appreciation for this tattoo.
    Still not exactly my cup of tea, but it is really fitting for her (or “it” rather)

  80. && to all the people bashing this chick – one thing that you need to understand is that people get off on different things. some people get off on being told they are worthless. paradoxical? maybe to some, but if it makes a person happy & they enjoy their life, who is anyone else to judge?

    everyone is free to take their own path

  81. All craziness aside, I just wanted to chime in and say that the word “cunt” is actually derived from several ancient terms of respect for women. The word appears to have descended specifically from goddess-worship associated with the goddess Kunti. The word “vagina”, on the other hand, comes from Latin and means “sheath for a sword.” (Which would you rather have?)

    For more amazingly insightful and interesting tidbits like these, I encourage everyone in the whole wide world to read Inga Muscio’s fabulous book, “Cunt: A Declaration Of Independence”.

  84. The blog doesn’t surprise me at all, but then again I have several friends who live at that level of intensity…it’s really not that uncommon, at least in my circles. I would say the only thing that surprises me is the domain name. kivaGIRL when the pronoun chosen is always neuter.

    For those who are shocked, keep in mind that the blog is only telling a very limited part of that person’s life. Just one aspect. All of the women I know who are in IDENTICAL situations have other parts to their lives. I know quite a few people in EXACTLY that situation and none of them is denied normal human comforts and pleasures. Everything has a D/s twist, to be sure, but the blog emphasizes only one small part of an individual’s life.

  85. What Etoile said.

    Some of the things they do are not things I’d do (scat, for example, because shit has bacteria in it that can make you ill), but I really don’t see anything to be horribly upset about. Disapprove of or deem unwise, maybe. But a lot of people do have heavy dehumanization fantasies, and she/”it” is clearly one of them.

    And as others have pointed out, BME has always been a haven for people who incorporate very heavy/very risky BDSM into their intimate lives. Whatever you think of how these folks do what they do — and I have my own opinion — it strikes me as truly bizarre that people would voice it here of all places. This site is for and about people who modify their bodies, including in drastic and risky ways. Some people do so for drastic and risky reasons. Why do we understand that this site is for and about them too if they’re getting Voldemort nostrils, but not if they’re getting “worthless cunt” inked on a body part they’re forbidden because of D/s to use?

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