Happy Hand Friends

It was “Palm Day” at Pirate Piercing in July, so understandably the gang decided to have their hands tattooed!

The hardworking tattooist behind them all? None other than Marc from Swastika Freak Shop.

It took Marc eight hours to complete all twelve hands, click above for a closer shot of the finished work.

Lucas and his palm controller.

Thanks to Anna for sending these in!

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Here Comes the Bride..

.. Six hundred pixels wide!

I’m sure you’ll all join me in congratulating Anna and Lucas who tied the knot at a “Pirate Wedding” on the 20th of June, in Turnhout, Belgium..

Read on for some other romantical shots (photos by Thierry Van Dort) and more..

Awwwwww, how cute. She hasn’t lost a daughter though, she’s gained a son!

Note to Lucas – If you want a long and happy marriage, learn how to link to her IAM name correctly. kthx.

The Diddy Man is in the Hizzouse!


He is the Diddy Man, the poking, cutting Diddy Man, but he doesn’t come from Knotty Ash!

I tried to write an introduction somehow comparing Diddy to Oliver Twist, but unfortunately there are no similarities.

However, if you’d like to read about the life, past, hopes and dreams of an up-and-coming scarification artist from Blighty who’s battling with a lifelong passion for piercing people, don’t let me stop you! (just don’t ask for more, please)

ROO:

Tell me a little about your personal history (your age, childhood, education, all that jazz)

DIDDY:

Well, I’m 23, I live in Bournemouth, England now and have been living here for the last 6 or 7 years.

I was born in Grimsby and lived in the Netherlands until I was about 5 or 6, then I moved to a small town just outside of Oxford where I went to school. It was a bit of a closed community and everybody knew everybody else, so nothing much ever happened there…

ROO:

I know the feeling! So, know we know a little about when you were little, tell me a little about your professional history (both in modification, and before that if you had a “previous career”)?

DIDDY:

I had always pierced as a hobby back in school I was always piercing myself and friends (ridiculously badly with bits and pieces bought from the Internet), looking back on it I realise now how badly I was actually doing things. In the time since I left school though I have worked in a newsagents, been a storesman, worked in a paper-mill binding magazines, various pubs and clubs, and even worked for the MOD for a while on a fueling station, I completed two years of a three year course in vehicular mechanical and electronic systems, but decided it really wasn’t what I expected it to be and moved onto something else.

I think the most memorable of all of them though has to be working for Bournemouth’s prestigious ‘Royal Bath Hotel’ as a bell boy, blue and gold waistcoat, full piercings and 25mm lobes, the works! I think somewhere is a couple of pictures as proof. Needless to say that didn’t last long. It kind of ended when the question was asked ‘What disease is it that makes those holes in your ears?’

They actually fired me when I told them it wasn’t a disease and I had stretched them myself.

I suppose my professional career really started when I was offered the desk/cleaning job at Metal Fatigue in Bournemouth town centre with Sarge, he showed me how to deal with customers correctly, taught me about hygiene and sterility and at the same time introduced me to BME, the rest as they say, is history.

ROO:

You’re history! Sorry, ignore that.. So, how do people get in touch with you and where do you work right now?

DIDDY:

I’ve worked from White Flame since I left Metal Fatigue back in 2003; it was an opportunity to work for myself. Do my own thing and wave my own banner, so to speak. It was something I always dreamed of doing but never EVER thought I’d have the opportunity to do.

I was just lucky that I had worked at Metal Fatigue, being one of the busiest body piercing clinics in the UK, I got to do a lot of piercing and fixing and dealing with issues and problems coming from other studios. I gained a wealth of experience from that place for which I will always be grateful and never forget.

I can be contacted via the shop, or the website www.whiteflameltd.co.uk or through my IAM page.

ROO:

To what extent does your sexuality play into your body modification interests? If you don’t mind talking about it, I understand that you didn’t come out until quite late in life?

DIDDY:

I like to think that my sexuality has no effect on my professional life, of course it means that ladies are a little more trusting with their genital piercings. And I seem to do a hell of a lot of PA’s and paired nipples on 40-something guys that have seen me out and about on the scene, I suppose I’m an approachable friendly young man more than a ‘gay’ and that’s the way I like it. I would hate to think that anyone would be put off by it, usually most customers don’t even know unless they know someone that I’ve talked to or know me personally.

ROO:

When did you first become aware of piercing?

DIDDY:

I suppose I’ve always been aware of piercing, it’s the era we live in, when people don’t have to be formally introduced to it to know what it’s all about, there is just an awareness of it from a really young age. I don’t know if this is how others are but that’s just the way it’s always been for me.

But you could say that friends and people you look up to having them is one of the biggest contributing factors in deciding whether or not it’s something you like.

ROO:

My first nostril piercing was mostly due to Slash from Guns and Roses, I loved him but he never called. Tell me about your first piercings and what got you into being a pierced person?

DIDDY:

It all started as a bit of a bet, I purposely lost to make an excuse to go and get my nipple pierced. I was meant to ask a someone out on a date or go get my nipple pierced. I was fourteen at the time and it was back when leaving school for lunch meant you were old enough to have this kind of thing done. Needless to say, I got the piercing. I had a few friends there with me, the guy was waffling on about how he knew exactly what he was doing and how he knew better than everybody else in the industry about how things should be done, (looking back on it now I realise he was just a back alley piercer doing a botch job) but at the time he was my hero, his name was Terry, he did my first piercing and I loved it, he had a tattoo on his head, I thought he was ‘Sooo cool!’ (jeez I was a very naive young boy).

I ended up spending most of my lunchtimes in the parlor watching tattoos being done, fetching sandwiches for the piercer and his mates, I loved just being a part of it. I ended up with both nipples, eyebrow, tragus, two in my tongue. Back then I was one of the most heavily pierced guys in our little closed community. So when I turned up at the doors of Metal Fatigue for my first piercings in Bournemouth I was in heaven. I realised that so much more was possible, there was surface work available as well as so many piercings I had never seen before.

A small selection of Diddy’s torso piercings, from over the years. (click-throughs)

ROO:

What made you want to become a professional piercer? How did you start piercing people?

DIDDY:

I had been doing botch piercings for a long time, working on my friends and such back in school through college and a few years before I started at Metal Fatigue. I’ve always been one of those guys that was never very good at anything, yet piercing just felt natural to me. I was pretty good at it and it pleased me to see that I could do something well and that kind of encouraged me into working it into a career.

ROO:

What do your family think about your job?

DIDDY:

My family still come from the same closed community I keep mentioning and all think I’m a little weird, but I’ve surprised them a few times over the years and I think they see it as just another one of my quirks.

My whole family though is very supportive of me and what I do, they can see that I am working hard pushing my career and what I do, and they obviously see that I’m doing a good thing for myself. They usually make comments on the piercings that I wear, whether they do or don’t like them, but at the end of the day my appearance doesn’t really have any effect on my choice of career now so they really take it all in their stride.

ROO:

Mine have been amazing too. I couldn’t ask for more, really! How did you learn to pierce?

DIDDY:

Mainly self-taught through trial and error (it’s not the best way to learn with regards to those that you pierce) but it definitely hones down why you should and shouldn’t do things in a particular way/manner.

But the person I have to thank the most is Sarge for bringing me to the studio environment and introducing me to hygiene, sterility and BME, for showing me how he worked and his particular methods and procedures, which I carry with me to this day!

Sarge and Diddy during his Metal Fatigue days.

ROO:

How do you improve your skills as a piercer?

DIDDY:

I like to think that I’m always learning, if anyone knows me well they will tell you that I am stupidly over-critical of myself and my own work. I think this to be a good thing as I’m never happy with anything (that sounds a little silly), but I’m always on the lookout for better ways of doing everything. I know I’m not the best out there but one day I hope to be and you cannot do that without a little hard work and research.

I do experiment a lot. I am in a position where I live with a considerable amount of modified people, who were always up for trying out something slightly different and new to me.

Also as a part of BME and IAM I’m pretty much always lurking in forums picking up tips and chatting with other piercers on how and why they do the things they do.

I like to think I’m also in good stead with other local artists such as Sarge, Gribbs, Bunty and a whole host of other Bournemouth IAM’ers. We share for the good of all.

ROO:

Like the Piercing Musketeers, kinda. Are you an APP member? Why or why not?

DIDDY:

There are many advantages with regards to being ‘in the know of the industry’, but I can’t stand political hype. Plus you can generally pick up the majority of the APP’s available information from other resources, minus the pecking order. I don’t and won’t cork every piercing. I do use canula/catheter needles and I don’t put elastic bands all over my instruments. I’m sure the APP is a wonderful organization and one day I will get around to applying for membership, but for now I am happy with the learning curve I am on.

ROO:

A lot of piercers seem to move into scarification and implants in their later careers. Do you have an interest in this as well?

DIDDY:

I started getting into implants a while ago, I did a few smaller basic pieces successfully and never really had a problem. But I decided to put that on hold until I had some sort of formal training. I decided that in retrospect I didn’t know what I was doing and the last thing I wanted to do was hurt anybody. So I stopped while everything was good. There is certainly formal training on the cards and I have already made plans to start working under somebody who’s work I really respect, but I won’t say too much about that as it’s still all in the pipeline.

Scarification, specifically cutting is something I am definitely interested in. I have always loved the look and the effect of native and primitive scarification and I have always loved the look of scars in general, I get some weird looks from self-harming customers when I tell them I really like what they have done to themselves, not that I promote or condone self-harm. But I just can’t help being intrigued when I see a big set of self-made scars.

I have been working really hard lately on getting myself together with the techniques involved with cutting and skin peeling. I don’t charge for the work that I do at the moment as I still feel that the outcome of each piece of work is more of a learning curve for me, when someone pays for scarification they are paying for your time, and a healed result, whereas at the moment I am giving my time to anyone who is willing to help me learn in perfecting my techniques and designs (to the point in which I feel I would personally pay to have work done by myself). Only then will I start to charge.

A happy customer, with seven PTFE domes!

ROO:

What “secondary” education do you have on top of piercing knowledge (i.e. first aid, blood borne pathogen courses, etc.)?

DIDDY:

Being a young gun I haven’t had much chance to do any of this yet, I have basic first aid training obviously, but I have signed myself up for GCSE physiology and anatomy to pave the way for college/university courses within the field, it’s difficult finding the time to work six days a week to keep myself afloat and to study at the same time, but determination will prevail there I think!

My knowledge base comes from personal research. I have many friends in the medical field who are always happy to lend me material. My partner is currently training as a nurse and I am keeping an eye on the things that he’s doing to help myself along too. We have customers that are doctors and nurses, and obviously my partners friends are all willing to help and answer any questions I might have.

ROO:

Do you think piercing is an art form or more of a craft?

DIDDY:

I pondered on this question myself for a while never really coming to an appropriate answer. But since reading the article with Anders, and not to be cheeky and coin his comment but, ’I see piercing and modification as a craft you learn and become good at, but when it’s executed properly with well-placed piercings and jewelry, it can be an expression of art’, is exactly right!

Most of the time I feel like I am providing my craft as a service to others, but every now and again I’ll put a mark on a client, not like it, and adjust it almost just a fraction to make it sit better (i.e. with the line of the face) or wherever it is, as I’m doing this I usually sit back and think ’now this is art!’

ROO:

I’d be interested in hearing some of your best piercing client stories in terms of why people got piercings.

DIDDY:

I don’t consider it my job to reason why people do what they do, and I don’t usually ask. Obviously clients like to talk about their reasoning and I must admit I do like to listen. I’ve heard it all, from weight gain, having a piercing to encourage weight loss, also the flip-side, someone who has lost weight wanting to congratulate themselves.

Being close to a university I quite often get graduation and final exam piercings too.

Divorce, marriage, birthdays, anniversaries, looking cool, I also deal with sub/dom stuff too. Basically any and every reason, I think I’ve heard it. From the smiley happy off your own back, to the bets with mates (I recently did a PA on a lad who was getting his tattoo all paid for if he had it done, needless to say he got himself a free tattoo) I think one of the sweetest things I’ve ever done has a bit of a long story to it, wanna hear that one?

ROO:

Ugh, go on then!

DIDDY:

Well a mother and daughter went in to get their navels pierced somewhere up country, the daughter went first and the mother backed out last minute, nothing was said but it was taken that the mother had to eventually get hers done as well.

The daughter fell terminally ill and over the next few years her health deteriorated and sadly she passed away, the mother (a current tattoo customer) came to me with the daughters old navel bars and pointed at the daughters favourite and said I want this here for my daughter and pointed to her navel.

I obviously couldn’t do it with that, but I used some of my own jewellery and about two months later she came in to see me with her daughter’s favourite piece of jewellery poking out of her navel, nicely healed.

She carries her daughters love with her everywhere now and it seems to make her so happy and all I can do is quietly smile inside for making that happen. That rocks my world billions and that’s the kind of thing that makes me glad I do what I do.

ROO:

You’re such a sweetie. What are your favourite piercings to do, and why?

DIDDY:

Every single piercing is different, both anatomically and characteristically. I wouldn’t even say two navels were the same piercing. I get half a feeling that it could be my age showing through there a little. I’m just as keen to do any piercing now as I always have been. I could say that given twenty years in the industry this could all change and I could start to develop a love for one specific piercing more than others, but given the fact that I know what being a jaded piercer can do to clients there is a high possibility that I will always love every single piercing I do, and put as much effort into every single customer as I always have!

ROO:

That’s a good way of thinking sunshine, but, your least favourite?

DIDDY:

The only piercings I don’t like doing are the ’I told you so’ piercings as I call them.

When a customer walks into the shop knowing full well exactly what they want, I tell them either it’s not going to work or that I don’t think it’s going to look great and give them my reasons for thinking so..

Firstly I refuse to do the piercing and then they start talking about getting one of the local botch artists to do it.. this scares me more than a piercing which might not work out so well, to which I usually reply ’well if you’re adamant you want this doing I would rather make sure it was done safely and I will do it for you, but I want you to come back in on a regular basis so, i) I can make sure everything is going OK and, ii) to take it out when you hate it or when it starts looking bad.

In this case it’s not so much the piercing I dislike as the customer, not listening to sound professional advice and I’m sure everybody out there, whatever industry they’re in, knows what it’s like to work with customers like this, it’s not fun.

ROO:

Again, I know how you feel. What piercing do you find the most challenging?

DIDDY:

Challenging piercings, hmmmm? I suppose something like pairing up someone else’s work has to be up there as challenging, it’s easy enough to pair up with a piercing that I’ve done as I generally know what angles I work at, but when I get something that’s done in such a way that I would not normally do it takes a little more thought and marking to get them looking the same. I’m talking about things like venoms/snakebites/double lip piercings, also things like multiple ear piercings.

Some of the less challenging piercings in his portfolio. (click-throughs)

ROO:

In general would you recommend piercing as a career? What advice would you give to someone who wants to become a piercer?

DIDDY:

We all know that piercing isn’t the best paid job in the world! If you’re going to do it, you have to do it because you love it. There is no real way to ’make a quick pound or two’ so if you want to be rich and famous this definitely is the wrong career for you. On the other hand, if you love body piercing and everything that goes along with it, the good and the bad, then find yourself a good piercer and show that you are willing to learn and work hard for what you want to achieve. Do your research. Bad instruction is worse than no instruction at all!! It is unfortunate that the market is saturated with body piercers these days and a good apprenticeship is incredibly hard to find as all the best artists have theirs working already.

You need to think if you can financially support yourself while you are apprenticing, usually a second job is a necessity as usually a piercer won’t pay someone to stand and watch, still living at home has its advantages in that case too, but saying that… I had neither when I started out in my career, so anything is possible!

ROO:

Have you ever apprenticed anyone? How did you (or would you) choose one?

DIDDY:

I do and I don’t. As I said earlier, I am always very critical of myself and my work. I don’t naturally feel as though I’m good enough in my own right to take on an apprentice (although I get told otherwise) and for them to be my prot’g’, for me to teach them every one of my little secrets.. I don’t work that way!!!

But I do have someone who works for me assisting me with piercings, learning cross-contamination and sterilization, who watches a lot, if not all, of the piercings that I do. Picking up techniques and asking me questions on things that she doesn’t understand. If she also wants to pierce then I will be on-hand while she pierces her friends and builds herself up as a piercer in her own right, her name is Lily and she has been with me now for the last six months.

I chose her for the twinkle I can see in her eye, HAHA, there is a certain something there that says to me ’I desperately want to pierce, can you help me?’ she was keen and bright and clean and tidy. Showed willingness and pretty much pestered me until I gave in. I see that as someone who will really love what they do right until the end.

That is what I look for, not just a liking but a passion for piercing. Before Lily I did the same thing for a lad called Martin who got quite far with me… but in the end his passion burnt out and things went downhill. I sadly just couldn’t trust him anymore and had to stop him coming in which was a real shame. I enjoyed working with him and watching him bring himself into the industry quietly smiling to myself as things just twigged in his head, although I will never take credit for training anyone who is self-taught, it’s just nice to know that I helped him along.

Diddy shoots, and leaves.

ROO:

Do you think you’ll be able — or want — to do this for a living, long term?

DIDDY:

Just try and stop me! I’ll be piercing until I can’t pierce any more, I can wholeheartedly say that until my body or the industry drastically fails me then I will keep poking holes in people.

ROO:

Hehe, poking. If you leave piercing, what do you think you’ll do?

DIDDY:

I think if I had to give up piercing for one reason or another, firstly I’d cry quite a bit, then not know what to do with myself for a while. I am not and never have been a guy that enjoys working for other people, I would probably set something up so that I can still work for myself and be who I want to be, maybe like a small caf’ or some sort of supplies company.

ROO:

It’s been my observation that many piercers seem to “burn out” after five to ten years and leave the industry — what are some of the stresses of being a piercer?

DIDDY:

I’d tend to disagree with your statement there, many of the piercers that I know and talk to have usually been in the industry for at least five years if not more and are still going very strong! I think the ones that burn out were probably doing it for the wrong reasons and weren’t so happy taking all the bad that comes with the good.

Finding out all of a sudden that the money doesn’t get any better and pushing on with a career in something else, either that or they just get jaded and fed up with doing the same thing over and over and over and… well you get the picture. It is what you make of it, I don’t think it’s a very stressful job and I look forward to every day at work. If you see it as a job that you ’have’ to go to, you’re going to burn out very quickly!

ROO:

What are the best things about being a piercer? What keeps you coming back to work?

DIDDY:

Hahaha I love this question… Everything!!! I love making my clients smile, I love the job that I do, I love everything about the studio environment. I especially smile inside when I successfully rectify someone else’s fuck-ups. I just love people smiling and I really get a buzz out of giving someone something they’ve always wanted.

I really like the way that customers walk in really nervous and scared but walk out buzzing.

ROO:

Piercers seem to meet a lot “weirder” clients than tattoo artist… Tell me about some of your stranger encounters?

DIDDY:

I’ve encountered so much weird in the last few years that anything I would have normally classed as weird doesn’t seem too bad anymore! For example, when I was first piercing I remember meeting a guy who had no nipples, they were removed by his mistress because she got so bored of the piercings that she made him have a few years previous. He was covered from the neck to the wrist to the ankles in small inch long white lines (scars) where she would mistreat him, that to me at the time was weird, but now that kind of thing just seems like any normal thing for consenting adults to do to each other. I think I find it more difficult to speak to ’normal’ people.

I have much weirder conversations with a lot of the tattoo/piercing virgin customers who are new to all this and just have some sort of naivety as to what actually happens out there in this world.

ROO:

What makes you a good piercer?

DIDDY:

That’s not something that I could personally answer. I don’t think it’s down to me to call myself a good piercer. Everybody, even the hacks, would call themselves good piercers for one reason or another. If anyone wants to know what makes me a good piercer you should talk to someone that I’ve pierced.

Though I do like to think I have an excellent bedside manner, the patience of a saint, and I actually give a damn about the things that I do.

ROO:

What’s the youngest person you’ve ever pierced, and what’s your personal feeling on age (independent of the law)?

DIDDY:

I have pierced lobes on babies, and I have to say I don’t like doing it. It’s actually something I will do if I have to but I will try as hard as I can to persuade a parent to wait until a child is old enough to have it done for themselves, I once met a young girl who had massive keloids on her ears, she’d had them from about two years old, when her parents had taken her to have her ears pierced and they hadn’t healed properly for whatever reason. This poor girl wouldn’t show her ears to anyone she was paranoid about being pierced and she was angry that her parents hadn’t given her the choice and that these things were forced upon her. I really felt for her and she had to have the keloids removed with an operation she had to pay for herself.

I consider it almost along the lines as an abuse of power, a parent taking a baby to have their ears pierced, but at the end of the day it’s a bit of a catch-22 situation, if I don’t do it, its going to be a gun or the butcher down the road.

Piercings are usually on sixteen year olds but I will go as low as fourteen with a legal parent or guardian in the room signing for them (with identification), but nothing lower than that for body piercing, it’s not right and I don’t like it.

There is no way that anyone is developed enough under 14 to have any kind of piercing done. Even when a 14 year old comes in with a parent (normally for navel piercing) I advise them against it with the ’high chance of total migration’ theory and that’s usually enough to get them to wait until they’re a little older.

What a poser!

ROO:

And the oldest?

DIDDY:

I think the sweetest thing I ever did was on an old couple I think he was about seventy and she was about sixty-eight. They both came in together after their 50th wedding anniversary to get their ear lobes pierced together (ROO: – Pierced together?! Now that’s commitment!), it was both their first time and we had such a laugh the lady ended up getting her hood done as well.

I’ll always remember that couple and I still have the thank you card they sent me when everything healed perfectly.

ROO:

What range of tools do you use? Needles? Scalpels? Dermal punches? More? Or anything past a needle, why or why not?

DIDDY:

When I’d first started out I was using cannulas only, Sarge introduced me to the blade and to genital piercing so I started using blades and 2.4 cannulas, shortly after getting the hang of that I started using a few custom sized needles and found my preferences of length. I now use 1.2mm and 1.6mm blades and cannulas, as well as 2mm, 2.4mm , 3.2mm and 4mm blades for suspension piercing, and large gauge stuff.

Once I’d done a few and enjoyed doing larger piercings I picked up some 4mm dermal punches, I really enjoyed using those, so I now stock 4mm, 5mm, 6mm and 8mm punches. When I started using those I also started using a scalpel to make larger piercings within the lobes as I really don’t like punching lobes out.

I have tried using a scalpel for piercings but I think it’s a little excessive, you make lots of mess and it’s totally unnecessary and will never catch on with the public, that’s just my own opinion anyway.

ROO:

What do you think of ear scalpelling?

DIDDY:

I really enjoy it, I started off by expanding a friends tunnels, I can’t remember exactly from what size to what size, they were around the 20mm mark and we put them up to 30mm-ish, I believe. That was about two and a half years ago now, I did a couple of those and they all went really well. I do quite a bit of ’insta-tunnelling’ now, as I call it, I experimented about two years ago on a couple of friends doing 6mm and 8mm lobe piercings, they healed extremely well and I was really happy with the results, a few friends of theirs had seen them and wanted them doing, it started there really. I will now happily put anything in from scratch up to about 15mm. also I’m quite happy with expanding peoples existing lobes up by six or seven millimetres at a time.

I would also really like to get into ear re-shaping, repair and lobe reconstruction, but again that’s something that I will have to wait for, more pipeline stuff!

ROO:

What is your line as to what you won’t do? What’s your policy on doing “extreme” piercings like vertical oral piercings, under-the-collarbone, Achilles piercings, eyelids, banana hammocks, uvulas, and so on? If you don’t do these, why not?

DIDDY:

I don’t like to draw lines in the sand, I’m usually willing to have a go at most things that come in and that I feel are safe. I will never do anything without the appropriate research (and technique practice if necessary). I really want to do a uvula piercing (I have even been practicing piercing on the end of a pair of hemostats) to be ready for if I’m asked, though I would only do the first couple on people I knew. If I’m ever unsure of anything I will not even attempt it, I will only touch someone if I know that everything I am doing is safe and will work out, it also depends on the customer and the situation. Depending on how much experience with piercing/modification they have and whether or not it’s a piercing I think, after research, is dangerous or not for me to perform. All customers are always fully aware of my abilities and experience in every single experimental procedure I perform.

It’s as much as a learning curve for them as it is for me to do things like that.

ROO:

How has the public attitude toward piercing changed in the time you’ve been working?

DIDDY:

The only thing that I’ve really started to notice is parental acceptance, kids being brought in by their parents, even as young as twelve, parents are allowing their kids to get piercings done, not that I do them at that age of course but they seem to have more of a willingness to let their children do whatever they like. I have also noticed an increase in the amount of facial piercings on younger people, such as sixteen and seventeen year olds having facial surface work, septums, and mid-brows. I think it’s becoming more and more socially acceptable to have piercings, along with that comes professional acceptance. I remember when I was fifteen or sixteen and looking for part time work, nobody would employ you with your eyebrow or nose pierced and now it seems to be kind of the norm in most places.

It’s great for the trade and I really like to see things picking up like it has.

Bizzy Diddy! (click-throughs)

ROO:

How do you feel about doing piercings that you’ve never had? Can you do them as well; give advice on them as well?

DIDDY:

I’ve pretty much had and healed piercings all over my body, even if I didn’t like them and took them out pretty soon after, I know what it feels like to be pierced in most places. So I can relate to most customers, there are the odd one or two that I have never had and really don’t know how they feel, but knowing this I really try to get lots of feedback from my clients on how it felt, whether or not it met their expectations, how it healed and whether or not they had any kind of complication. I take a telephone number from each of my customers and regularly call up people who have had piercing work like this done to find out whether they had any issues, I then add all this information to the aftercare of the next one and so on. I’m pretty pleased to say this works and you can really get yourself a good feel for what kind of problems you can encounter even though not having had the piercing myself.

Nasallang on the left and split-lobe piercing, 5mm conch punch and an 8mm outer flat punch on the right (GC). (click-throughs)

ROO:

Are you still getting piercings yourself? I know a lot of people get a ton of piercings when they’re young, and then sort of “settle down”.

DIDDY:

I’ve kind of turned into a bit of a jess. I’m not really piercing myself anymore I have what I want and I’m not going to get modified for the sake of it, if I need to check out a new technique or test out a new piece of jewellery I will of course try so on myself and see how things get on. But other than that I am happy with the piercings that I have, I’m working now on getting myself pretty heavily tattooed, when our tattooists have free time, which in general isn’t an awful lot.

I agree with that statement though, I really have noticed that youngsters get pierced mainly, when they hit twenty/twenty-one they either carry on being pierced and get more and more heavily modified, either that or they stop around that age and either continue on with the piercings they have or just take them out altogether. There are exceptions to all rules but that’s definitely something that I have noticed.

ROO:

Do you think piercing’s a trend? Is it getting more popular, is it starting to decline, or is it stable?

DIDDY:

Due to the social and professional acceptance I think it’s just going to get more and more popular! I think parents are becoming aware that it’s not so much of a risky business anymore, and that obviously we are bound by local and government regulations so much that parents aren’t really as bothered now as they used to be.

Obviously all it takes to change that is some really bad press with regards to someone doing something really silly and it could all come crashing down around our ears.

I have certainly noticed a big increase in the amount of piercing work coming through the doors, but I suppose I will never really know how much of that is to do with reputation, or whether it’s just the trend building.

ROO:

How do you feel piercing has changed over time?

DIDDY:

Since I’ve been piercing I have noticed things like the quality of the jewellery just getting better and better, the techniques and methods being used have become a lot more refined and safer. Piercers themselves have become better informed and more educated. Also customers have become more aware of their rights to a clean and efficient piercer, customers are actually starting to do research into what they should expect from a piercer/piercing, which is always nice to see.

I am really keen to see the next scientific step in body piercing. Hopefully one day someone will invent a machine to instantly heal piercings and trauma, that’ll be a day of great joy if that ever happens!

I also hope I’m around long enough to see the piercing gun finally banned for good!!!

ROO:

How did you get into doing scarification?

DIDDY:

As I said earlier I’ve always loved the look of scars, when I started using scalpels at work, I also started thinking about making scarification pieces too. A couple of friends convinced me to start some small, light pieces on them. They turned out OK, but mostly they disappeared because I was afraid of working too deep. Over the course of the last year or so I have been working just slightly heavier every time until I get to the point where I am really happy with the depth that I work at, then I did a piece which looked like it needed to be peeled, as I was really just getting into proper scar work I had already done about as much research on the topic of peeling as I could possibly muster and went for it! The piece turned out OK, not brilliant, but practice was definitely needed there. The next piece I turned out was really nice and it all kind of went from there really.

Cutting and flesh removal. (click-throughs)

ROO:

How did you learn and refine your scarification work?

DIDDY:

Being stuck in the south of the UK I never really got to see any serious work being done. So watching an artist work was out of the question, I offered free work to my friends as practice (which I still do) on the basis that they knew not only what work was available to them i.e. galleries on BME alongside my current portfolio of work (both good and bad). I am forever checking out work and lurking in IAM’s forums for ideas and new methods but I’m afraid to say, and I’m sure it will spark some controversy, when I say its mainly trial and error, to which all clients are fully informed of before I go anywhere near them. I like doing pieces which push me to try new things, always very lightly at first and then as my confidence builds in that specific technique I try to involve it in as much of my work as I possibly can. Although I’m not even a scratch on some of the top scarification artists out there, I’m still proud of what I have managed to achieve and all I can hope is that my work continues to improve to the point where I might one day feel comfortable actually charging for it (which I still don’t).

ROO:

You’d make a rubbish bull. What types of scarification do you do?

DIDDY:

Cutting and skin peeling only. I have a cautery/branding machine but I have never fired it up, that’s something I might try to incorporate when my cutting improves, for a different effect.

ROO:

What is your artistic background? How do you do the designs?

DIDDY:

I’m not the most fantastic of artist so coming up with complex designs is a little more difficult for me, but that’s OK, I don’t mind that so much as I really like basic bold designs. I’m very good at using Photoshop and working with the curvature of the body so I can bypass a lot of the difficulty in coming up with designs, I’m also trying really hard working on my freehand, I can usually be found sat drawing on people with no reason behind it at all other than getting used to free-handing and working with the correct lines of the body.

Freshly sliced, then nicely healed cutting by Diddy (from left to right, obviously).

ROO:

Which types of scarification, and which types of images, do you most like doing, and why?

DIDDY:

I really like to see a balance in work, it sounds a bit odd, but seeing something like a delicate flower or a smooth curve, with the contrast of the fact that it has been ’cut in’ in an almost aggressive fashion, it’s kind of ironic to me.

I’m really not keen on heavy keloiding and try to keep my scars just that little bit lighter than that, and I love, just love, to see big bold scars, big bold patterns and designs, though I can understand that not everybody likes it that way and am also totally happy to work on more intricate designs, even if they take me some time to get ready in the first place.

ROO:

Why do you think that most scarification artists come from a base of piercing, rather than tattooing?

DIDDY:

Scalpels and heavier bleeding! Kinda seems more natural to come from a piercer than from a tattooist, though one of the tattooists here in our studio is watching a few of my pieces with the thought of working into it herself. I’m sure that it’s not all piercers working with scarification, but how many tattooists do you know that spend time working with scalpels. It’s almost like a natural progression for most piercers into their mods these days. Though I can certainly see why it could be better coming from a tattooist working with depth and consistency, those are some of the things that I was getting a lot of trouble with, now that I am doing more work it seems to be getting much easier to get a consistent depth and width from cutting than ever I used to.

More from his “experimental” portfolio. (click-throughs)

ROO:

How is your scarification client’le different from your piercing client’le?

DIDDY:

Put simply, it’s not!

Everyone I have ever cut, I have pierced. Mainly because I have friends heavily into their piercings, wanting something just that little bit different to a tattoo, either that or I am talking to someone who is a tattoo only man about doing some scarification over his tattoos. This would be the first person I will have cut without having a piercing by me too.

ROO:

Do you do scarification commercially, or just on people you know? Why?

DIDDY:

Ummm, that’s a toughy, I’m at the point now where I am happy that I am not going to hurt someone, so I am more than happy (within reason) to cut pretty much anybody that has seen my work and compared it to ’what they could be getting for money’, but, as I said earlier I’m not happy enough with the final results of my work to guarantee anything specific, so I will not charge for my time, in fact I don’t even charge for materials! I cover that all myself as a thank you for anyone who allows me to use their skin for refining my skills, I’m not in any kind of rush to start earning money from cutting, first and foremost I am and always will be a body piercer, so that pays the bills (most of the time). I will start commercially cutting people when I have decided that I would be happy enough to get and pay for a professional cutting done by myself.

But tips for good work will never go amiss!

ROO:

What do you think the future holds for scarification? Would you like to do it exclusively?

DIDDY:

No, I will never stop piercing, it’s the passion of my life.

It would be nice to think that someday I could swan around from place to place guest-spotting in different studios having work booked up for me, seeing the world and meeting lots of new people, but I think I would miss my little studio and my customers too much.

ROO:

What are the laws in your area about scarification? What do you think they should be?

DIDDY:

Bournemouth council doesn’t like it, they never have and I don’t think they ever will (though ’technically’ they just don’t have a stand on it).

It’s not against the law, but our local council really likes to have control over what our piercers and tattooists are doing, scarification is something they just have no real knowledge or understanding of so it’s classed as a grey area.

I think they should investigate and educate themselves a little more on the topic to allow us to work in this fashion without worrying about whether or not our registration is going to be revoked. Not that it’s likely to happen, it would be more of a polite finger waggle.

ROO:

Have you had to deal with the media on piercing, scarification, suspension or other art forms?

DIDDY:

I don’t like media, I don’t do interviews, I don’t like hype or fame. I’m sat here doing this interview because this is a community of my friends, and you asked me ever so politely. I know a lot of people here and most of them have no idea why I am doing what I do, or how I got into doing it.

I’m not the best with words as you may have guessed by now and I have quite a lot of difficulty expressing myself this way, I also say things that I don’t mean to say when I’m trying to get a point across and that can cause upset if I am misinterpreted.

I’m forever being asked to do interviews by university students for their course work and I politely refuse most of the time. Not really into bigging myself up because yes, at the end of the day I have a really cool job and yes, I understand certain people may look up to that but realistically I am a guy with a job just like everybody else.

Being a piercer/artist makes you no different from a policeman walking a dangerous beat, I am nothing special, I just give a damn.

Oh no, wait! I was once in the back of the local paper, ‘The Daily Echo’, in a small section I was asked if I like fish, to which my reply was ‘only fresh fish’ with a little photograph of me. I was so proud of that!

Not this photo!

ROO:

Haha, bless. Well, on that rather fishy note I’ll leave you be Diddy Man, take care of yourself and good luck with everything! Lastly, big thanks to Rachel Anderson for allowing me to use her photographs in this article.

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No Boys Allowed! Introducing the All-Grrls Suscon [Guest Column – Stepping Back]


“Love and respect woman. Look to her not only for comfort, but for strength and inspiration and the doubling of your intellectual and moral powers. Blot out from your mind any idea of superiority; you have none.”

Giuseppe Mazzini


There is something special about a group of women. There’s a particular vibe, an energy. Together, women are gentle, honest, open and sensitive. We easily comfort each other, we’re attentive and supportive. Topics of conversation, body language, our voices are different, and the presence of even one man can change everything. There is a connection that goes beyond our anatomy, beyond any common interests or friendships. Women don’t even have to like one another in order to feel the bond. We are different than men. No better, no worse, just different.

With this knowledge and their love of suspension, Jill (IAM:feisty) and Rachel (IAM:tigertante) created and hosted the first All-Grrls Suscon last year, and it was a success. It was so successful, in fact, that they’re at it again!

This year’s event will be held in August in Toronto. Suspensions cost $100 and pulls cost $50, and any woman, experienced or not, is welcome to come. The exact location is still to-be-announced, so keep your eye on the All-Grrls Suscon event page. To reiterate: there are NO BOYS ALLOWED!

As smoothly as last year’s event went, the idea of a women-only Suscon did stir up some controversy. There were a few members of the suspension community who felt it was unfair to exclude men. Jill and Rachel want to emphasize that this is not anti-men, but rather pro-women. They had been frustrated by the way they’d been treated by men at other events when they first entered into the community, and wanted to show themselves and others that women are just as capable as organizing, setting up, and suspending as their counterparts. They surpassed their goal, proving to everyone that an All-Grrl’s Suscon wasn’t just a great idea, it was great in practice too.

 
Jill and Rachel working at last year’s All-Grrls Suscon.

BME:  Hi girls! Can you tell me a little about yourselves?
JILL:  I grew up in Belleville which is a small Ontario town, with my mom and brother. I left when I was eighteen to move to the greater Toronto area for college. I’m twenty-seven years old, and am currently working at one of the largest bike stores in Canada. I am part of a trio of wimmin who publish SMUT Magazine, which is a quarterly, pansexual and erotic magazine. It’s featured many BME members like Rachel, Phil (IAM:PhilipBarbosa), Joel (IAM::Hooch). I also am the owner of a promotions and event production company, Feisty Productions. Rachel has been a key component to all of my shows, and the shows wouldn’t have had the same caliber if it wasn’t for her many talents like fire spinning and suspension..
RACHEL:  I am a dual Canadian/American citizen— I was born outside of Seattle and grew up all around the States. I finished high school in Berlin, Germany and have been living in Canada since starting university in 1996. I did a Bachelors degree at the University of Guelph in Biological Science and have just completed a Masters of Science specializing in developmental genetics at the University of Ottawa. I’ll probably do a PhD next year, though I’ve also been working my way towards medical school for the past five years. My newest hobby is running marathons— including Berlin last year and Boston this year— and riding motorcycles. I’m also a classically trained cellist with eighteen years experience and have performed in Canada, the United States, Germany and England with various bands, dancers, and theatre groups. I’m also twenty-seven.
BME:  How did you two meet?
JILL:  I was living in Toronto in the spring of 2002, after returning from living in Australia and was working in an outdoor store when she walked in looking for climbing equipment. After asking what the supplies were for, she and her friend, Philip Barbosa, told me that it was for a suspension performance that evening and I should check it out.
RACHEL:  Yup, and we totally hit it off as friends from the very beginning. Both Phil and Jill are incredibly chatty types, so that day Jill got the whole scoop on what we did and she mentioned that she was interested in getting involved with our rigging projects. Our friendship has really developed into something very strong, loving and deeply respectful over the past few years.
 
Jill and Rachel. Friends through the ages.
BME:  Jill, did you have any experience with suspensions before meeting Rachel?
JILL:  None at all. After meeting her, I hosted an event where I had iwascured (IWC) perform, and then I headed down to the 2003 Rites of Passage (ROP) Suscon where I was the Canadian rigger for the weekend. I was there to replace Jon (IAM:wild zero), which are some pretty huge shoes to fill. I felt honoured and everyone welcomed me with open arms because both Rachel and Phil believed in my skill level and the other staff took an instant shining to me. I think I proved myself that weekend by rigging a human zip line that Rachel went down on hooks. We’ve been told that it was the highlight of some people’s weekend.
BME:  Rachel, what is your experience with suspensions and pullings?
RACHEL:  I first became involved in suspension through iwascured in March 2001 when I saw Martini’s (IAM::martini) torture with huge bent bar-b-q skewers as hooks. After that experience I was hooked (ha! ha!) and immersed myself in helping out with shows at BME events, like the one in Shannon’s (IAM:glider) backyard in Toronto as a piercer, rigger and performer. I’ve performed a number of times in Toronto with IWC at various clubs and at BMEfest in Tweed. I attended the first Dallas Suscon, some ROP Suscons in Massachusetts, and the Rhode Island ROP Suscons consistently for the past three years and worked closely with the ROP, Traumatic Stress Discipline (TSD), and IHUNG crews.
BME:  How long have you been in the body modification scene?
JILL:  I have had piercings and tattoos since the mid 90’s, but wouldn’t say that I have been involved in the modification industry until I met Rachel. She opened my eyes to a world of incredible people.
RACHEL:  I’ve never really considered myself part of a scene, but before joining IAM in January of 2001, I got my first tattoo and piercing when I was eighteen (other than my lobes, which were done at age five). I have really downsized my modifications in the past year but I’ve got several piercings, scarification, and four tattoos. My most recent body ritual is fasting. It’s a mental and physical challenge, much like training for my marathons. I don’t get to suspend very often because I can’t afford the time it would take for my body to heal from one and because I’m scared my body might go into overload. Preparing for a marathon takes a lot of discipline, training and recovering.
 
Rachel doing a couple of her own suspensions at previous events.
BME:  Off the topic a little, but I noticed you spell “women” and “girl” differently, why is that?
RACHEL:  Basically it creates words not based on “man” or “men.” Similar to not using “he” as a general term supposedly encompassing all, but instead he/she or one. Grrl is just a fun way to spell “girl.” It looks more tough and in your face.
BME:  Okay, fair enough. Onward.
Last year, you two hosted the first All-Grrl’s Suscon, and it was a success! Whose idea was it?
JILL:  The day that I met Rachel in my store she mentioned wanting to do an all wimmins suspension event. I told her that I would be glad to help her out if she needed it, which she did. A year later, we were executing the first ever All-Grrls Suscon. I was glad to help her bring one of her dreams to reality.
RACHEL:  I had thought about doing an All-Grrl suspension event/team when I was just getting involved in the suspension community. Around November 2001, Carrie (IAM:alisinwonderland) and I attended the first Dallas Suscon as part of the IWC team. It was there that we realized we were practically the only females within the suspension groups attending who actually participated in getting people off the ground. Our attempts to jump in and help were met with at lot of resistance like, “You can hold stuff when our hands get full.”
BME:  How did you deal with that at the time?
RACHEL:  I almost didn’t go back the second day because I was so unimpressed and I felt totally powerless. I got the impression that the boys were having trouble realizing we weren’t just someone’s girlfriend watching from the sidelines. My first response was to get fuming mad and storm off but I knew that wouldn’t help anything. Instead, Carrie and I took that energy and transformed it into something good: she and I decided to create a space that would be more womyn-positive, and the idea for the All-Grrls Suscon was born.

That event ended up being an incredibly amazing experience as the IWC crew was really supportive of us as crew members. Some members of the TSD briefed us on some rigging techniques, and so began our beautiful friendship with those wonderful Texans! I believe that since then a lot has changed in terms of women’s involvement in the suspension community. There are definitely lots more women participating in suspension events and crews on all levels.

BME:  What do you think changed that made women more “accepted” in the events?
RACHEL:  I believe that because of the increase in women suspending at events has helped. When grrls come to the events and see other women suspending, piercing, rigging, and performing it boosts their self-confidence in that, “hey if she can do it, I can too” way. It was very inspiring for me to see women suspending at a BME bar-b-q. I also think that a lot of the core members of crews like TSD, ROP, IHUNG, and of course IWC have been accepting of wimmin working within their group, and some of the negativity we experience may come from the periphery.
JILL:  I agree. The more wimmin suspend, the more we’re able to let the men know that we can do things just as well as them.
BME:  Do you feel the need to “prove” yourself at mixed-gender events?
JILL:  I think women have had to prove themselves in every aspect of society, and it’s no different with suspensions. Personally, I had to walk in to an already-established community and introduce myself as part of IWC and just start rigging. I think I earned their respect right away when they all realized I knew what I was doing, and like I said, Rachel helped me ease into the scene because she was already established within that group.
RACHEL:  I’ve only really felt that I need to prove myself once, at the first Dallas Suscon. It’s possible that our entire group was kind of under the microscope considering it was a TSD-run event and they had never worked with us. Since then, I think our reputation has somewhat preceded us and I haven’t felt any need to prove myself, though I still run myself ragged at Suscons. I’m not good with just standing around because there’s always something that needs to be done!
BME:  What were the steps from taking the All-Grrls idea to an actual Suscon?
JILL:  Finding a location was the hard part. We only wanted wimmin there— there were to be no boys involved at all, so it was very hard to find somewhere that’s suspension-friendly and men-free. We decided to hold it at my business partner’s yard, which turned out to be an incredible location because it was outside and the weather was amazing. We had to get our own supplies which are quite costly, and devise a free-standing unit that we could use to suspend from. Because there were no trees that we could use in the yard, I had to make a huge rig designed for two suspensions beside each other at one time.

The other important factor to make the event a success was finding staff. The wimmin we knew that were qualified were from all over North America. Getting them all into my yard was the trick. We decided to hold the event on the weekend of BMEfest of last year because we figured that a lot of wimmin would be coming for that already, so it was a perfect opportunity.

As for running the actual event, Rachel and I had no problems. Many people helped with the prep work and the set up of the event. Rachel’s experience with suspension and my experience running events, it just sort of happened. Flawlessly I might add.

BME:  How many girls attended?
RACHEL:  I believe there were about twenty-five people who attended (including staff) from all over the world including England, Australia, US and Western Canada…
JILL:  …and we did about nine suspensions and two pulls. We put out juice and water and food for the staff and the day went by smoothly. Rachel and I started the prep at around 8:00am, and the staff started showing up at 9am. Our first suspension started by 11:00am or so, and we continued until just after 6:00pm. All of the suspensions were suicide, and we even had a couple go up at the same time. It was really amazing. They had a really profound experience.
BME:  Why was it profound for them?
JILL:  The grrls had wanted to suspend together since they met me a year earlier. One of the most influential wimmin to them was Liz Spencer, who I’d suspended a year earlier. Once they saw that suspension and how it changed Liz’s life, they wanted to suspend together. Liz was supposed to be there for their experience, but sadly, she passed away that spring and didn’t get to see them. I was happy to have helped in give her that experience and then share it with two of her friends.
BME:  Did you notice any difference in the atmosphere? Certainly girls act differently when they’re with just girls, so was it the same sort of thing at the event?
JILL:  Of course it was. A group of wimmin is just different. It’s an emotional thing, an estrogen thing. It was just a really nice calm atmosphere.
RACHEL:  It was totally different. I found it was a more peaceful and calm environment. Everything ran really smoothly— like clockwork. There was no running around or stressing about who was going up next. Maybe it was because it was a smaller event than most Suscons, but I didn’t sense any hesitation from the suspendees when it was their turn. There was no competition or feeling that you had to put a show on for anyone. There is an inexplicable comfort that comes with working in an all-wimmin’s space.
BME:  What types of girls did you attract at the event? Was it people who’d never suspended or pulled before? Do you a lot of women came specifically because there were no men present?
JILL:  I don’t think that any of the participants were against men being there but they were definitely excited that it was only going to be only wimmin there. None of the staff are anti-male. But we all wanted to have a positive female environment. Wimmin and men are different. No matter what you say, they are different creatures. So, when you get only females at an event, it just feels different. There’s less ego and more mental energy, plus, there’s no testosterone.

We had wimmin who had never suspended or pulled before and we also had ones that had, and the general consensus was that the vibe was great! I know many who couldn’t make it last year are making it a priority this year. I think lots of grrls were just happy to have a venue to be able to let go of any inhibitions.

RACHEL: 
I don’t really think there was a specific type of person who came to our event. I assume that the wimmin wanted to try suspending in an all-grrl environment, whether it was because they wanted to be in the company of females or because they specifically didn’t want men to be there, I have no idea. It was never about excluding men, but rather about including wimmin.
 
Jill with IAM:stumbleine
BME:  What are some common inhibitions that women feel at a cross-gender event?
JILL:  I think that most people don’t like to suspend for the first time in a large group because it’s something that’s so potentially emotional. It’s a proven fact that wimmin and men act differently. When wimmin are around men, sometimes they feel like they have to prove themselves and when you take men out of the equation they can just be themselves because there’s nobody to impress. Plus, it’s easier to suspend without a shirt on and many wimmin aren’t comfortable enough to take their shirt off at a mixed event. The All-Grrls Suscon is not for everyone, but the ones who appreciate it are the ones we hold it for.
RACHEL:  Jill’s right: I often feel compelled to put on a show or prove how tough I am at cross-gender events and it makes me feel self-conscious. If the suspension requires me to be scantily clad, I’m more aware of my nudity and how attractive I look to others. I think other wimmin are also afraid to “fail” in front of such a crowd— whether it’s not being able to suspend as long as everyone else, or being unable to fulfill some other goal they feel they need to achieve to have a “successful” suspension. I think some grrls are preoccupied with being sexy or attractive, and these things may take a bit of focus away from themselves and the experience their body is going through.
BME:  For people thinking about going this year— whether it’ll be their first time attending or their second time— why should people attend your event?
JILL:  “Why shouldn’t they?” is a better question. An All-Grrls Suscon is a really nice experience, especially for those who’ve never suspended before. It’s not going to be for every female out there, but I know a lot of grrls find it comfortable and welcoming. Wimmin can connect with each other on a level that men can’t. That doesn’t make us any better than men, but it certainly gives us the opportunity to empathize with each other and what we are feeling.
RACHEL:  Plus, for the same reasons why people would attend any other suscon-type event— to hang!
BME:  What has your feedback been from men about this event?
JILL:  The feedback was great. I think there were a bunch of men that couldn’t believe that we actually did this. We sure showed them! The men in both Rachel’s and my life are very supportive and they respect us for what we do. They know we are highly skilled in suspension and rigging collectively and put on a great, successful event. We definitely had a bunch of grief from men out there that don’t think there are enough trained wimmin out there to work the suscon.

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I had to talk to the men who disagreed with the idea, and I found two who were willing to speak out. Cere (IAM:Cere), a member of the ROP (but whose opinions don’t represent anyone’s but his own) admits that his point of view is very unpopular, but he does not like the idea of the All-Grrl’s Suscon. Rachel, Jill and Cere are all very good friends, but his opinion differs dramatically from theirs.

IAM:Cere

Cere: Simply put, I am completely against the idea of it. I understand the idea that a woman might be more comfortable around other woman suspending and the idea that at a large event that might have a woman suspending topless or nude may bring gawkers from the male gender. I call bullshit on it. You are just as likely to have a bisexual or lesbian woman admire a naked girl as you would a guy. Also at every single event that we have thrown there has been nudity or toplessness and we have never had a problem with someone being rude or leering. If you are uncomfortable with your body, set up something private.

The main reason is though is the hypocrisy behind it. If I were to throw an All-White suscon or a No-Minority suscon, everyone would be up in arms screaming about it. But it’s okay that an entire gender is being discriminated against in a community that is supposed to celebrate the oneness of humanity? Fuck that.

That said though, I love Rachel and Jill, and they are awesome friends of mine. I hope their next event goes off without a hitch and I hope that everyone who hangs there has an amazing experience and gets the most out of their suspension.


IAM:Code Zero

Code Zero: I personally didn’t feel like any one-gender event is fair or just. I understand that these women feel more comfortable without any guys there, but I’m a larger guy and I don’t necessarily feel comfortable with a ton of strangers around, but if I had a “Fat guy only” event, it would get protested by women and men alike. The whole BME/IAM scene is about acceptance and togetherness, and this event felt like a slap in the face. Having an invite-only event is one thing because it prevents having people come just to gawk, like the highly secretive MODCON, but to exclude someone based on nothing other than gender, it’s not right. It’s sexist.

Do you think it would be okay for someone to organize a “Blacks Only” Suscon if they felt that black people would be more comfortable doing suspensions without anyone else around? It may not sound like the same thing, but at its core, it’s exactly the same thing.


BME:  What would you like to say to people who view this as an “anti-men” event, instead of how you intended it: a “pro-women” event?
JILL:  I know some people don’t understand why men can’t be there, but this is all about being pro-wimmin. There is an emotional and physical difference between men and wimmin, and if you can’t get that, you have bigger problems than just not being allowed in to our event. I have spoken to many men who will outright laugh at other men who don’t understand the difference between men and wimmin. Many men know that this is an important and necessary event. I had men tell me last year that the only difference between men and wimmin was our genitals. Pardon me as I stop laughing. A few guys retaliated with comments like, “Well, what if there was an all male suscon?” I think, up until a few years ago, the events were an all-male Suscon. Wimmin are just starting to become more prominent in the suspension community. The All-Grrl Suscon is an event where wimmin can feel free to be themselves and not worry about what the men think.
RACHEL:  To them it’s all about us hating men, which is strange considering that these comments come from men we know and love and who know and love us. As much as some of us hate to admit it, our society is still deeply infected with patriarchy, sexism and misogyny. What Cere fails to notice is that every day is white, heterosexual male day. My god, wimmin weren’t even able to vote until 1920, whereas Blacks had the right fifty years prior. I think that speaks miles about North America’s views on wimmin in society. Not to mention wimmin still face a substantial economic inequality. I think that although gender equality is definitely ideal, we’re still working on it, and there is still a need for wimmin to create empowering spaces for themselves. I think it’s difficult for a lot of men to understand that.

Cere suggested that we create a private event, and that’s exactly what we’ve done! I too, have never seen blatant gawking at a suspension convention, however I think one would be hard pressed to find a man who does not consider nudity in wimmin to be a highly sexually charged thing. I think it is difficult for men to look at wimmin’s bodies and not regard them in a sexual context. A breast is never just regarded as any other non-sexed part of the body such as an arm or a leg. I disagree that wimmin who are sexually attracted to other wimmin lack the same discretion. I feel that a wimmin’s only space allows grrls to reveal their bodies in a non-sexual manner.

The majority of the feedback we’ve heard from men has been positive and supportive, which is really great. Of course a few people have their knickers in a knot over the concept of a wimmin-only event and there has been a little backlash, but from what I’ve heard the feedback is primarily positive.


***

As Jill said, there are men who completely agree with the ideals behind the All-Grrls Suscon.

Graham Wilson (IAM:[tan])

[tan]: Without a doubt, I believe it’s important to have an All-Grrls Suscon. Men dominate the suspension and the modification community in general. Any chance for a minority in a community to get together and share ideas, knowledge and experience can only enhance equality. It may be difficult for some women to be half undressed in front of men (who may or may not care), which can add another mental hurdle that would encourage them to turn away from suspension. Suspension is difficult enough as it is and for first time suspenders feeling self-conscious it is not going to help at all.

Frankly, there are currently very few women staffers. Men throw the hooks, men hang from hooks, and men hold the knowledge. Suspension has become a male dominated experience and if you dispute this, have a look at the suspension galleries and experiences on BME. There is a lack of a female voice and knowledge.

Let’s ask women what they want. If women want to suspend with other women, brilliant, let them go ahead and do it without feeling like they are harming the suspension/modification community. The more people that feel free, comfortable and safe to suspend, the better!


George (IAM:Useless) is a member
of the NY ROP chapter.

Useless: In a way, I think it is good to have an All-Grrls Suscon. There definitely aren’t enough women in the suspension community, so this is a good opportunity for people who want to learn. I’m a bit concerned about the staff, because there are only a few female suspension artists that I trust. I understand how this event is a pro-women but to some extent I do understand how the men (boys?) can see this as an anti-men event. It’s a bit of a tricky situation, but if this can help some females learn more about suspensions, then I’m all for it.

Of all the BBQs, shows and Suscons I’ve been to, I don’t think the female suspension artists have been treated any differently. I have worked side by side with females and felt just as comfortable with working with them as I do a male. I know that people aren’t randomly chosen like a lottery to join these suspension teams; it’s a lot about trust. To the few females that will be working this event, I know they will use their skills and best judgment to make this event a memorable one. Just like the entire suspension community does for every event.


PhilipBarbosa: It’s about time this happened! The suspension community needs to have more well trained practitioners and a much stronger female presence. It’s an asset to what we do! I agree, for too long much of the community has been male dominated, but as time has gone on there has been a growing population of really amazing wimmin with drive, dedication and tough fucking skin! It’s really nice to see, and I’m proud and really just very happy that there is such a positive response to this project.

Occasionally, I tire of being involved in this community, mostly when I encounter apathy, but its events like this one that really make me think about how powerful an experience like this really is and what amazing things we can all do.

That said, I also believe that tigertante is one of the most skilled and best trained suspension practitioners I have ever had the pleasure of working with and I trust her with my life. Following through with her commitment to make an event will certainly do amazing things, not only for the suspension community but for your selves as well. We need new blood to pump into what we are all trying to establish. A stronger female presence is exactly what the community needs right now!


BME:  What if someone has a boyfriend that they really want to go with them, can he come?

RACHEL:  Nope, no exceptions.
JILL:  I think that there are tons of people out there who want their partner to be present when they suspend. Unfortunately, the All-Grrl Suscon is exactly that. All wimmin. There are many other Suscons where everyone can go, and all we’re trying to do with this one is offer something a bit different. If it doesn’t fit into what your ideal experience is, then maybe it isn’t’ the event for you. We know it’s not for everyone. But those who came last year enjoyed it.
BME:  Rachel, last year you said “I’m sick and tired of sausage-fest Suscons and would love to help create a safe, friendly space for wimmin out there who want to suspend but are possibly uncomfortable at boy-dominated events to step out and experience a pull or suspension themselves!” Do you still feel as though Suscons are “sausage-fests”?
Jill: Do you share her opinion on this?
RACHEL:  I think that comment stems from the my experience at the Dallas Suscon, but in the past several years, since working with both ROP and IHUNG crews, the environment has changed into one that’s much friendlier toward wimmin. Thanks to them, I no longer consider Suscons “sausage-fests.”
JILL:  Suscons are, or at least have been, sausage fests. It is a very male dominated community. First off, there aren’t as many wimmin out there that are interested, and wimmin tend to be a bit more timid than men when getting involved in something like suspension. The men that we know are extremely talented at what they do, but not everyone tends to be totally accepting of wimmin in “their” space. Now that there’s an All-Grrls Suscon and more wimmin attending mixed-gender events, I do see a positive change in the community.
BME:  What are you doing differently at this year’s All-Grrl Suscon in comparison to last year’s?

JILL:  We’re going to make small improvements so that more wimmin can go up and stay up longer if they want to, so we’re hopefully going to have more than two stations and more staff. We haven’t decided on a particular spot to host it, but we know it’s going to be bigger. I’m really excited about the great atmosphere it will be. Last year people only wanted to do suicide suspensions, so we’d really like to see different styles at this year’s because I think it’s good to see people try a variety of different things.
BME:  Why was that the only kind done last year?
RACHEL:  I think the fact that it was a lot of these grrls’ first time had a lot to do with the domination of the suicide suspension. The suicide position is definitely the most common style attempted. I believe most people think it’s the “easiest” method because there are a minimal number of hooks and the suspendee can’t see them, which make a lot of people feel more at ease, even though fewer hooks means more weight on each hook. It’s also a relatively comfortable vertical position so people can feel free to spin and swing around.
BME:  What were you most surprised about with last year’s event?
JILL:  How smoothly it went.
RACHEL:  I was probably most surprised with the incredible atmosphere that we created during the event. It was so amazing to be working with an all-grrl team. It ended up being a really heartwarming, positive experience.
BME:  Did you hear back from any of the girls after they left the event? What was the general feeling about the event?
JILL:  I know people can’t wait till this year’s event.
RACHEL:  I heard back from a number of grrls saying how much they enjoyed the experience and thanking us for putting it on. I think I heard from way more grrls saying how much they hated to miss it and to tell them when the next one is coming around! But in general, everyone was incredibly positive about how the event ran.

***

They’re right, the feedback from the women who attended was extremely positive. I spoke to a few of them about their experiences.

 
IAM:LilFunky1 (right) and Sandy
hard at work.

LilFunky1: I was a staff member at last year’s All-Grrls Suscon in the bleed-out area and was responsible for removing the air out of the girls that had finished their suspension or pulls, as well as photo-documenting. I was really excited to work at the Suscon because it was the first of its kind, so I jumped at the chance to become a part of history.

I found the atmosphere really calm, friendly and very relaxed. There was no rudeness, attitudes or egos and no one was showing off. The experienced people were really open with their feelings and knowledge about suspending and pulling which was important because the majority of the participants were new to it, and I was new to working at a Suscon. I was comfortable talking about my experiences suspending to anyone who was interested, which surprised me considering I had just met a lot of the people there, but was willing to share a lot that I thought I would never be able to tell anyone.

There was no specific schedule to adhere to because many of the participants had never suspended or pulled before and the staff did not want to push people to go up, but rather to let them go at their own pace. The comfort level was definitely raised because there was no one who might make an ill-timed or inappropriate comment on purpose or by accident. No one seemed self-conscious at all about their clothing choices and they generally seemed very happy at the idea of “girl power” and just being at such a special event.


IAM:Badcat
Badcat: I arrived with a friend of mine, only knowing Rachel and no one else. I initially wanted to try a pull, but by the time it was my turn, I’d changed my mind and wanted to do a suspension instead. It was a very comfortable atmosphere with really friendly and positive attendees, and there wasn’t a competitive aura. I felt a lot of support and acceptance about the girls’ preferences about doing pulls compared to a suspension, and how they were to be done (number of hooks, etc). I was impressed with how safe and health-conscious everything was arranged. They had food, juice and water for people to prepare their bodies with and there was even a hammock to recoup in!

The rig was set up in a private backyard with grass below your dangling feet, the fresh perfume from the flower gardens teasing your senses, and the warm sun on your skin. I couldn’t have felt more secure with my surroundings and it was one of the most spiritual experiences I’ve had. I was dealing with a rough relationship and had been very stressed in the month leading up to the suspension. Once I did mine, I felt crystal clear and very cleansed. I’ve never experienced anything like that before with such intensity. I can’t wait to do it again at this year’s event!



IAM:Alyssa Jane doing her first back pull
with IAM:Dyzcordia.

Alyssa Jane: That day I decided to do my first pull. The atmosphere was a lot different than any other event I have ever attended. There was a general feeling of support in the air even though I had never met any of the other attendees; they made me feel as though I had known them for years and it really put my mind at ease. There were no gawky onlookers, no pressure to act tough or to perform. It’s wasn’t necessarily more “comfortable,” but I did notice a completely different atmosphere than at other events and because of it, I felt very calm. One thing that sticks out is that it was the most organized event I’ve ever seen. If I didn’t live so far away, I’d be at this year’s, for sure!


IAM:vampy

vampy: I had travelled from England and didn’t know anyone at the event, but I immediately felt welcomed. It was a very relaxed atmosphere and all the girls were walking around talking to each other. I’m not the sort of girl who tends to seek out, or feel more comfortable in the company of women. I do have female friends, but the majority of my friends tend to be male. I felt relaxed and had fun chatting to people, just as I did the next day at BMEfest where there were men around. I didn’t suspend because I need to know someone very well before I can feel comfortable enough for them to suspend me, but if I had, I think the all girls rule would have been more of a hindrance than a help. While I would have been happy suspending in front of all of the people there, I like to have my close friends around when I am suspending, and most of them are male.

In the piercing tent, the atmosphere was very different than what I was used to. Previously, I had only worked alone or alongside men while piercing for suspensions. The atmosphere was a lot more open and relaxed. In my experience, I have felt that when offering a different opinion to male piercers (something like “don’t you think she’d be more comfortable if we lower the marks half an inch?”) they instantly see this as criticism and get defensive. I felt a lot more like everyone was working together for the benefit of the suspendee, and there was much less ego involved. At one point one of the organizers came over and asked me if there was anything we did differently to them and why; I’ve never felt that my opinion was respected as much at an event with male piercers, even by those with less experience than me.

After returning home, I did a small suspension event with another female piercer and mostly girls helping out (though there were a few men around). I found exactly the same thing while working; that we seemed to get along better as a team, and there was continual communication about what had been done and what needed to be done. Having said that, I did another event shortly after where I got to work alongside a wonderful male piercer. I found exactly the same thing working with him, so it’s not exclusively women I enjoy working with, but I do think that in general women accept constructive criticism as it is meant, and pay more attention to the needs of the suspendee.



IAM:Dyzcordia

Dyzcordia: This was my first suspension event and I did a chest pull. I wanted to go because it seemed as though it would be a smaller event than a lot of the others, so I thought I’d feel more comfortable. It was in Toronto, where I live, and it came at a time when I was craving the influence of female energy. I think there is something very different about being in a group of just girls, and it’s as much about how women are different with each other when there are no men around as it is about not having to interact with men.

There was an aura of excitement, that kind of eager anticipation that can be almost tangible. I felt that it was very well organized, but not overly so either. There was no sense of disorganization, but rather a lot of room for flexibility. It didn’t seem like there was any set order that people were suspending in, each person just seemed to go when they were ready. Everything seemed to just flow well. I am planning to go to this year’s event and am pretty excited about it.

I know that there was a lot of controversy surrounding the issue of whether or not excluding men was a negative action, but I don’t feel that the point was to exclude men, but to just focus on women. I can’t imagine how my first experience could possibly have been more positive, and I don’t know if that’s primarily because it was an all female event; I just know that the event was the perfect thing for me and I came away from it totally satisfied.

***

Having an All-Grrl’s Suscon is a wonderful idea. Women have a strong presence when we’re together, and when you add something as empowering as suspensions and pulls, our bond is strengthened. I wish Jill and Rachel the best of luck with this year’s event, and I hope they’ll continue it in the future, and I’ll see them in August!

— Gillian Hyde (IAM:typealice)



Gillian Hyde (IAM:typealice) is a vagabond, though her roots run deep into Nova Scotian soil. She’s lived and worked on three continents since 2001, and has never lived anywhere for longer than eight months since the age of 16. She loves fonts, puns, being barefoot, and office supplies. Calm to her is the roar of the ocean.

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Shannon Larratt Interview [The Publisher’s Ring]


Shannon Larratt Q&A


“Man is a make-believe animal: he is never so truly himself as when he is acting a part.”

– William Hazlitt

After a quite some time of people suggesting it, I’ve finally done my own Q&A column. All of these questions were submitted by IAM members, and I hope I’ve done an acceptable job answering them. Before you read this, please understand that these are just my personal views. The site is made up of a wide range of people with an incredibly diverse set of beliefs, and this is just one of many of them. So please don’t be terribly offended if you don’t agree with one of my views.

Please excuse the pretentiousness of some of the answers.

 

shawn.spc: Do you remember what you did four days ago?

No, I don’t. My memory lasts between five minutes and a few hours most of the time, although I do of course have a dotty memory of events, but it’s unclear, muddled, and not in chronological order. While I’ve done my best to structure my life in a way that makes this unimportant, it is very damaging to my social relationships. It makes it hard for me to know who I know, who I can trust, who I shouldn’t trust, and who is lying to me or telling the truth. I have to rely on notes, automated assistance, and of course Rachel to get by.

It also makes it extremely difficult for me to write longer essays because when I’m writing them and proof-reading them I can’t remember more than a few paragraphs at a time, so I tend to repeat myself a lot. To combat that I try and write an outline and just expand it gradually, writing a sentence at a time and “filling in the blanks” as I go. I program the same way at this point — one of the good things is this all has forced me to start properly documenting my code!


Anonymous: What is it in Rachel that makes you think she is so amazing and spectacular? Is she really pretty in person or is it just fancy camera work on your part? Does she really “hold you together” as it says on the staff page?

Yes, absolutely. I don’t think people who don’t know me personally understand just how non-functional I am. While parts of me are totally supercharged and far outperform the average person, other parts of my life and persona are extremely troubled and hard for me to control. I think that part of the reason that I’ve worked so hard to have success in an independent lifestyle is that it’s put me in a position where these shortcomings are less relevant. Even still, they’ve progressed to the point now to where it is difficult for me to run my own life, and without her help I would probably fall apart. She’s incredibly intelligent and competent (it’s not as if she’s just “the girlfriend” — she’s an equal partner and probably does more day-to-day in running the site than I do) and her skills perfectly complement mine and I think vice-versa as well. (As an interesting side note, I’ve seen this same sort of partnership in both other programmers and in many body artists that I respect).

And yes, she really is that beautiful in person.


FroggerJenkins: Providing a service of this magnitude, while amazing, must be tiring. Do you ever regret launching BME?

Sometimes the amount of time I have to spend working depresses me, because I often get up at 6:30 AM and work late into the night. At this point I have very little time for anything of my own and it’s starting to wear on me. Sometimes I think as well about how much more money I’d have if I spent more time on work and less time on BME, but I’ve never regretted launching BME. I also think it’s important to note that I’m really just a facilitator or catalyst — I help direct where BME is going, but BME is an expression of thousands and thousands of people, not of me.


xMeMNoCHx: While I enjoy reading your diary posts and articles, a lot of them always seem to deal with darker subjects (the nature of the business I guess)… what in life right now enables you to take a step back and say “damn, it’s good to be me!”?

Not that I don’t enjoy being me, but I’m not sure that anything makes me say “it’s good to be me” in the sense of “rather than someone else”. Every one of us should be able to say that they enjoy being alive. Unfortunately many of us are imprisoned by society and are unable to fully be ourselves and express the things we need to, and thus become miserable.


That said, I did go yacht shopping today, and until we moved back to the city Rachel and I did have matching “his and hers” Porsches. We’re both very hard workers and have always been financially rewarded for doing so. This has allowed us to do things for our friends and community that make us happy, and it lets us raise our daughter without a financial spectre always over our heads. I am very grateful for this.


Uberkitty: If you could suggest a single book to the entire world what would it be? What about suggesting all the writings of a single author?

I highly recommend “The Good Life” by Scott and Helen Nearing. If any single book influenced major change in my life that is probably it. His other books are brilliant as well. I also think everyone needs to read “War is a Racket” by Major General Smedley Butler (which you can read for free online), an anti-war essay written between the first and the second world war. People hear it so much that it must read like a cliché, but those who don’t learn from history really are doomed to repeat it. So more so than focusing on individual authors, I think it’s essential that people read classics, especially those that touch on the issues we believe are “new” or politically relevant today.


ServMe: From what I’ve seen and read, you seem to be living proof that as long as you want to accomplish something bad enough, you can. I suppose that as most other humans you have failed at things, so do you see those failures as the end of something, or just as an intermediary step towards reaching your goal — or coming up with something even better?

I’m not sure if there’s such a thing as success or failure in the way that most people use it. Sure, sometimes a task works the way you wanted it to, and sometimes it doesn’t. But I’m not entirely convinced that the purpose of life is to “win” — I think the purpose of life is more to discover, accept, and experience being alive (and I think body modification is a tool in achieving that for some people). Failure is a part of that, and while I don’t seek out failure, I do my best to appreciate it when it occurs. The only real failure is not appreciating being alive, and there are of course days where I have that failure.


serpents: You have very strong, well-thought out opinions, and very persuasive ways of making those known. You also have a fairly strong natural magnetism of person. You also speak of your narcissism fairly regularly. It’s obvious that despite your best effort, it does seem that a “cult of Shannon’s personality” tries to form itself within IAM members from time to time in that a proclamation from you is instantly carried on high by the masses as gospel, and people who were only moments ago defending their attitudes to the death can sometimes backpedal just as fast to align themselves with your opinions. The question is what keeps you from totally taking advantage of it, setting up an island nation and proclaiming yourself god-king before an adoring mass of followers?

I don’t want followers. Followers are not interesting travel partners in life. I hope that if people back-peddle on their statements because of something I say it’s because they’ve considered what I said, debated it for themselves, and come to a similar conclusion as I did — just believing something “because Shannon said so” is foolhardy. I’m sure I say stupid stuff all the time and I hope that people respect themselves enough to be able to decide on their own which of my words are right for their life and which are not. I have no desire to lead anyone anywhere, although I’m thrilled when people decide to follow a parallel path, and if something I’ve said or done has helped them find it, I’m honored to have been able to do so.


lilfunky1: Have you ever tried to make someone (such as your parents) try and understand the reasons behind your modifications? Did you give up? Or was it never any of their business?

If people understand themselves, then they will understand me as well. The key to understanding what makes other people work is understanding what makes oneself work. While I can try and help others learn about themselves, when it comes right down to it, they have to do it on their own. The people in my family who understand me are the ones that understand themselves.


Netzapper: Would you support a measure (enacted by the United Federation of Planets, Q Continuum, God, or some similarly omnipotent organization) to replace all of the world’s firearms, missiles, artillery, etc. with swords, ballistas, trebuchets, etc.?

When I first read this question I interpreted it as a swords into plowshares question. So my first answer is one to an imaginary question.

Well, that did of course happen in Japan in 1588 when Hidéyoshi and his samurai banned the ownership of swords and firearms by all but the noble classes. They scoured the country telling the people that the swords were going to be melted down and turned into a giant statue of Buddha. Of course, once the swords and guns were all in the hands of Hidéyoshi, they were instead turned into a giant statue of him, and Japan has been a police state ever since.

Sometimes freedom and liberty have to be defended, and I don’t believe that will ever change. Giving up our ability — and our fundamental right — to do so is suicidal.

But in terms of the question that you actually asked, history hasn’t shown us that forcing soldiers to kill each other in hand to hand combat versus from afar reduces the amount of death or increases the “personal responsibility” the soldiers feel for that death. If anything, it makes it worse. So no, I don’t believe such a transformation would be positive


UrgentClunker: How would you define failure, and what would you consider your biggest failure to date?

Failure is not enjoying the game of life. Any time I get depressed and let my fears get the best of me, that’s when I’m failing. An interview bombing, a car accident, a poorly written article: none of those are failures. The only failure is when you don’t enjoy failing (not that one shouldn’t try and “win” every time). If I’m understanding him correctly, my father’s core lesson to my siblings and I was that life is the ultimate game, and victory comes first from enjoying it and second from coming out in first place (and that if you have to kill a hobgoblin, you must make sure he can scream his death scream on the battlefield to open the doors to hobgoblin heaven).


snackninja: Have you ever considered running for political office? What level of government would you feel most comfortable in?

I believe running for political office is an honorable aspiration, and I considered running for the office of mayor in Toronto on a secessionist platform to make Toronto a partially independent city-state. I still think it’s the right thing for both Toronto and Canada, and I’m starting to see more mainstream political groups making noise along the same lines. However, my extreme views on many subjects coupled with my appearance would make it very difficult for me to run for office. There are better ways for me to independently facilitate political change in the world.

What was the first concert you ever saw? The best one?

The best concert I ever saw was during Mojave 3’s first tour (although their final concert in Toronto as Slowdive was incredibly emotionally moving). Not including stuff I saw as a kid, I think the first concert I ever went to was the Sonic Youth tour promoting Goo.

What do you think the next major evolutionary change that the human race will experience will be?

Humans have remained largely unchanged through catastrophes of immense magnitude such as the most recent Ice Age. Humans are successful because we’re smart, but also because we’re incredibly adaptable. So I think it’s unlikely that we’ll see any natural evolution occurring. However, I do think it’s very likely that we’ll tinker with ourselves genetically more and more. It’ll start with gradual improvements — smarter, stronger, healthier, and able to survive in more hostile environments. Whether that eventually takes us into a form other than human, I don’t know. I hope I get to see some of it in my lifetime.

I think the changes facing humanity are more likely to come from our escalating technology. We’re on the cusp of entering space, and cities in orbit, on the moon, and on neighboring planets will very likely come in our lifetimes. We are also facing the risk of increasingly versatile, adaptable, and extremely intelligent machines who could potentially replace us inside the same time period. The Japanese are making terrifying progress in this, and I don’t believe they have the technological checks in place to keep it from snowballing out of control. It’s a very dangerous game, and I think we are making a terrible mistake in barreling forward so recklessly. Whether they are our children (and thus the next step in “human” evolution), or if they’re a science experiment gone horribly wrong is a question for the robot philosophers of the 22nd century to debate.


Celestial_Horror: It seems that many of the most knowledgeable modified people at some point became professionals, and performed modifications on others. Was there ever a point where you considered a career as a piercer or artist?

I did briefly tattoo, which I enjoyed, but to be perfectly honest I’m very introverted and fairly sociopathic. I like seeing my friends, but only for short periods, and I do not enjoy being around strangers. As a piercer, tattoo artist, or other body modification practitioner, you have to be extremely comfortable working with all sorts of people to give them the experience they need. I do not believe that I have the ability to do that.

kamikuso: When did you first get into computers and programming, and how did you go about educating yourself?

My father was always involved in computing and telephony projects as far back as I can remember, and from about the time I was five years old, worked mostly at home. Because of that I got to be around some amazing minds at a very young age, and had hands-on and relatively unrestricted access to new technology. My parents were very careful not to let me or my brother fall into the trap of television, so programming became my entertainment. I was encouraged to learn and loved doing it. I did later spend some time at the University of Toronto in cognitive and computer science, which helped make me less of a “sloppy” programmer, but I think it’s still fair to say that I’m exclusively self taught.


hotpiercedguy: Do you ever wish you were more or less revered? Are you happy with what “celebrity status” you currently have?

I couldn’t care less whether people think I’m a rock star or not (anyone who’s met me in person knows I’m not), although it makes me a little sad when people revere me — they really should be revering themselves instead. There’s nothing in me that isn’t in them as well. That said, having some level of popularity has been useful in spreading the messages I try and get out into the public mindset.


MoDvAyNe: When you started the IAM community, had you ever considered that it would sprout and become a family for others interested in body modification?

I had no idea. I wrote the IAM software because I wanted a tool to maintain my own online journal. I really wasn’t expecting it to be so popular when I opened it up to everyone else as well, but I’m very happy that it was. So many unexpected blessings and life-changing events have come for so many different people thanks to the community that has formed on IAM.


Fidget: In retrospect, is there anything about BME or IAM that you would have done differently, but don’t feel like you can change now that it’s established?

There are some organizational things that I might have done differently, and technologies that evolved differently than I’d expected at the time. I’ve made alliances with people from time to time that have betrayed me or ripped me off, but really, I think all of us could list endless things like that. Other than correcting things like that, I don’t think I’d change anything. The sites’ missions have stayed the same since day one.


Reverence: For most people it’s hard to come out of their shell. Visible modifications are hard for people, as you know, since society places a lot on outward appearance. How long did take you and how much thought was put into your visible mods before you had the work done? Or did you not hesitate at all?

I didn’t put any thought into it at the time because it was who I was, if that makes any sense. I don’t have to justify my modifications to myself because they make sense and they feel right. The only time I’ve had to “make excuses” for my physical appearance is for periods where others have tried to convince me that the modifications were a mistake.

I’m sure there are many people out there who choose modification for fashion or social reasons, and that’s cool and I don’t have a problem with that, but I didn’t choose it. It’s how I was born and it’s who I am, and nothing can or will change that.

That said, I think that people should know themselves pretty well before they go making decisions that could have a harsh impact on the rest of their life. If the modifications they’re making are going to affect their ability to find employment or even fit into the social mainstream, they need to very seriously consider whether they want to make such an immense sacrifice.


Kraz_Eric: I’m interested most in your religious beliefs. I’ve read hints here and there, but nothing concrete.

At its simplest, I believe that we (on this planet) are all part of a single entity, and that we are as interconnected and as dependent on each other as the cells in our own bodies. I believe that this superbeing is what most religions call God, and I believe that we are all God and a part of God. I think most religions try and express this in their own way, but they err in taking the metaphors used to explain this phenomenon too literally and thereby cloud the true nature of the universe.


sadlyinsane: Do you ever worry about the influence that you and your site carry on a large group of a younger generation?

Not at all. I believe in what I’m saying, and I wouldn’t say it if I didn’t think it was the truth, so I have no problem with it influencing anyone, no matter what their age is. I also believe that young people are the future (duh!) and that they’re a lot smarter than adults give them credit for. If that’s who I have an influence over, great!


starspring: Has the look and layout of BME or IAM been determined or inspired by any particular method or design source?

I pretty much just try and keep it as simple as possible. I don’t think that any of my sites really stand out as graphic design masterpieces, but I hope they’re easy to use. In terms of what I do online, my goal is to get the content to as many people as possible, so that’s what influences the design decisions.


medlabchick: Most people know that you would love to live on a tropical island but have you ever thought about building a cabin in the middle of the forest in northern Ontario? Believe me, no one would find you there.

Hey, I’d love to live in a fortified compound in northern Ontario, but I fell in love with and married an American girl who’s spent her adult life living in places like Phoenix, Miami, and New Orleans. While I grew up in a wood-heated house in Canada and love the winter, she’s not quite the fan of it that I am.


jasonthe29th: for what social justice issue would you be willing to give up BME completely? For instance, if giving up BME stopped the death penalty or abortion would you do it?

BME is a part of who I am, and a part of the thousands of people who’ve helped create it. Justice is absolute. You either have it, or you don’t. You can’t have “a little justice”. Thus I don’t believe that you can give up one freedom in exchange for another.


Raistlyn: What are the pitfalls of running BME and IAM?

I believe that BME stays fully inside the law and is a responsible publication. However, there are hateful people out there that have such a problem with who they are themselves that they choose to attack BME to distract themselves from the things they need to fix inside themselves. Because BME is totally above-board, they are constantly fabricating and calling in fake charges to various authorities.

The only other pitfall is extremely long hours which to be honest is burning me out and I have to figure out a way to reduce that workload if I want to keep maintaining the entire site. That said, it’s far more of a positive experience than a negative one. I have some concerns about how the community is changing as time goes by, and whether some of what BME does is relevant or desired, but, for now at least, I’m staying on course and sticking with the plan!


frzamonkey: What is the one thing that we as IAM members do that you wish you could change?

I just wish people were nicer to another. It’s pretty pathetic to watch people who could be friends getting off on tormenting each other for no apparent reason other than enjoying seeing someone else in pain. That’s about the only thing that really bugs me, when people think that rather than curing their own pain, they’ll instead invalidate it somehow by making everyone around them hurt as well.


t.thomas: Do you feel life is dress rehersal for something larger?

I don’t believe that there is something larger in terms of heaven or anything like that. It’s already here and we’re already living in it… we just have to open ourselves to it. Joseph Campbell put it perfectly when he wrote, “People say that what we’re all seeking is a meaning for life. I don’t think that’s what we’re really seeking. I think that what we’re seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances within our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.”


Erica: I remember that when you first did your modcode, you marked “I happily kill what I eat”. When and why did you become vegan?

I became vegan first for environmental reasons, kept with it for health reasons, and then stayed vegan long term for spiritual reasons. At the point I wrote that I was just transitioning to a fully vegan diet. Ethically, my primary problem was with factory farming and the truly brutal (and environmentally foolhardy) practices they employ, and morally I had real concerns that people were “hiding” the fact that a sentient living creature was giving up its life for our pleasure. I believe that if someone is going to eat meat that they need to embrace the death of that animal and on some level thank it for what it has given them. In the modern context, I don’t believe we can gain that awareness unless we are either raising our own animals for consumption and slaughtering them, or by hunting our own food. While I would not do it myself, I believe that by understanding the life-death-life cycles and taking an active and compassionate role in them one can perhaps justify eating meat, but at this point in my life I would not be able to bring myself to do so.


pella: I think I read some where that you studied art history at university. What are you favorite non-body mod related artists?

I’d like to think I appreciate good art from all eras, but I’m most partial to impressionists like Gauguin and Van Gogh, and as well to fauvism which of course grew from them. I like impressionist works quite simply because they’re beautiful and appeal to me aesthetically, and fauvism appeals to me emotionally.

Do you think a wider more in depth knowledge of not only body art but fine art is valuable for professionals in this industry?

I think an in depth knowledge of fine art and especially art history is valuable for people in all professions. Understanding the art that a culture produces is essential to understanding the context in which the events of the time happened — just knowing the time line is not enough. You have to be able to feel what the people living through it were feeling, and art is one of the only ways we have to transmit that information across time.


Cylence: Do you think it’s possible to take body modification too seriously? I mean, when you start referring to your eyebrow ring as “my transformative spiritual experience” and are willing to be unemployed and exiled from your family or commit suicide rather than take it out, has it gone too far? Obviously an extreme example but I think you see what I’m getting at. Can body modification become too much of a person’s identity, to the point where it is their identity?

I suppose one can take anything too seriously, but no, assuming the person is being honest with themselves, I don’t think you can ever take anything too seriously. “Transformative spiritual experiences” are often found in everyday events, and I would never question someone’s right to find value in that. If they’re wrong, their lie to themselves is far worse than their lie to me or you (since it’s really none of our business anyway). Clearly if someone is willing to ostracize themselves from their family and from society over their modifications they perceive them as extremely essential, and while I think it’s important to know oneself well enough to decide when something is healthy or unhealthy, cutting off someone’s medicine like that is rarely going to have a positive outcome. If someone needs modifications, I think they should be supported in that.


Shannon Larratt
BME.com